Relationships- Couples: A Garden of Love Mars- Venus Relationship Advice for Couples

A Garden of Love
By Melodie Tucker

Love will be in the air this month, as the vernal equinox officially ushers in Spring on March 20 this year. Of course, Spring Fever won't be far behind and many couples will be anxious to go play outside and plant a garden of beautiful flowers or delicious veggies (or both!).

A relationship is like a garden, too. It must be tended and nurtured like delicate plantings in order to survive and thrive. It needs to be watered and fed regularly, as well as weeded and protected from destructive weather. Consistent care and attention must be showered upon it, in order to keep the magic of love alive and growing throughout all the seasons.

In the Springtime of Love, everything is new and fresh. The seeds of passion sprout effortlessly and everything about our lovers and relationship seems perfect. It's easy and fun to spend time together and it seems as though it will never end.

As the Summer of Love heats up, though, disappointments may occur as you see your partner in a more realistic light. Even though we're from Venus and Mars, we're all still human beings, with different beliefs and values, flawed and capable of making mistakes. Frustrations can build and it begins to take more time and work to keep the relationship blossoming. The weeds of arguments must be pulled and sometimes a stormy darkness colors the sky. This is the time to learn and use good communication skills to work through differences and resolve conflicts in a positive way. During these times, Martians are challenged to apologize and Venusians are encouraged to forgive.

When we successfully tame these rocky hilltops, we abundantly harvest the rewards in the Autumn of Love. This is a golden time! It's when we can experience a more mature, deep and abiding love as a result of all that hard work. It is the time to enjoy and bask in the golden light of triumph.

Even still, we may enter a Winter of Love. This is when it is cold and harsh and it may seem as though love has died. It can be barren of emotion and we cannot get what we need from our partner. A man may withdraw into his private "cave" and a woman may sink into the depths of her 'well'. This is not the time to seek or expect support from a partner. Instead, take the time to focus inward to discover what you want and what you can do to make yourself happy?knowing that Spring will soon come 'round again.

Like a garden, every relationship goes through cyclical stages of joy and hard times. Preparation and realistic expectations are like the garden tools that ease the way. Remember, also, that these seasons can happen within a span of a lifetime, a year or even a day.

May you always grow in love...

Melodie Tucker is a Mars Venus Success Coach and Seminar Leader, trained by Dr. John Gray, author of the world famous "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" series. For the past 10 years, she has helped men and women all over the world create great relationships that last. If you'd like more information about this topic, want to learn how you can become a coach, or wish to have personal coaching for your specific situation, please contact her at the email address on her bio at: Melodie Tucker.

 

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