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Melodie Tucker, Success Coach

melodietucker@marsvenuscoaching.com

Office:  321-459-1399

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My own journey to Mars Venus began in the mid ‘90s during a particularly “challenging” phase of my marriage. Searching for some help and answers, I stumbled across Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, and my life has never been the same. After dog-earing every Mars Venus book, I discovered the opportunity to share this life-changing information with others. It was like a thunderbolt, and I instantly knew relationship education was my life's calling.

In February 1998, I attended my first training with John Gray to be certified as a workshop facilitator on personal relationship skills for couples and singles. My 32-year career in a very ‘Martian' aerospace industry prepared me to help women and men apply relationship skills in their careers so I became certified to present Mars Venus workplace seminars as well. In fact, Dr. Gray acknowledges me in his book “Mars and Venus in the Workplace” for contributing valuable experience and feedback. Since the ‘90s, I've shared Mars and Venus concepts through workshops held in many venues, including cruise ships, resorts, churches, and for professional women's organizations.

I've also written articles on the Mars Venus Web sites and made guest appearances on radio to discuss Mars and Venus concepts.

The most rewarding aspect of my Mars Venus career, though, has been as a telephone coach with Ask Mars Venus and now as a Success Coach with Mars Venus Coaching ( www.marsvenuscoaching.com ).

In the past 6 years as a coach, I've had the privilege to work with hundreds of men and women from all over the world with every imaginable relationship concern — including issues on dating, commitment, marriage, infidelity, starting over after a loss, parenting, workplace issues, and achieving personal success.

Most importantly, my own marriage is thriving as we celebrate our 32nd wedding anniversary this year. Learning and applying the Mars Venus principles was a significant factor in our ability to achieve this milestone. We are also very proud of our two daughters, who are now happy and successful adults. Their experiences, both in the workplace and in the dating and relationship realms, have benefited greatly from having their own “private” coach!

My journey is a testament to Dr. Gray's How to Get What You Want and Want What You Have. When you work with me via workshops/seminars or coaching, you'll find warm, open-minded, and empathetic support; understanding without judgment or reprisal; and someone with a practical and down-to-earth approach to inspire you to discover your own highest potential in all areas of your life. Teaching others how to apply Dr. Gray's principles to their own relationships is the sweetest work in the universe.

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Stress Relief on Mars and Venus
By Melodie Tucker

There is no doubt that these troubling times are causing more stress for everyone. On top of the 'normal' stress of work, school, and home responsibilities, we are all now being constantly bombarded by negative news--in the papers, the TV, radio, and on the Internet. Even if your family has personally escaped the current housing, employment, and financial crisis (so far!), chances are you're close to someone who has been severely affected. Fear, worry, and anger pepper the gossip around the water coolers and coffee pots of America . Many businesses are reeling and most people are cutting back on spending and protecting their interests while searching for the light at the end of the tunnel. It seems like we are powerless to stop the onslaught and we long for a safe haven at the end of day. Ah…Home Sweet Home! Or is it?

Stress causes the release of adrenaline and cortisol. These are important hormones to help us in times of emergency or life-threatening situations, but a continuous flow (as many people experience from the consistent drama of modern life) is harmful and counteracts our 'feel-good' hormones. So as we all seek relief from these 'stress' hormone rushes all day long, it's important to recognize how Martians and Venusians process and respond differently so we can best understand and support each other. Research has proven that our brains, biology and hormones are hard-wired uniquely and these differences drive us in separate directions when faced with stress. Although our daily lives and roles have changed tremendously over the past 50 years, our bodies have not. It's no wonder Mars and Venus collide!

When a man is stressed, his normal reaction is to withdraw to figure out solutions alone or if there is no solution, he simply will forget about the problems of his day. He often doesn't want to talk or do much until he has rested. This is why he tends to come home and go right to the bathroom, turn on the computer or TV, or disappear into the garage or the basement…wherever his particular "Cave" happens to be. It's critical for him to have down time to rejuvenate and rebuild the testosterone levels that have been depleted over the course of his day.

Women under stress produce much more cortisol than men , so it's even more damaging. After she comes home after a long hard day, she tends to feel overwhelmed with all the things to do and unable to relax. What she needs first is affection and a caring and empathetic ear to listen to her talk about what is on her mind. In fact, she must remember her problems before she can forget them . Sharing her emotions, feeling heard, validated and cherished allows the much-needed hormone oxytocin to be released in her body so she can let go and relax.

Understanding these concepts lets couples learn how to relate better to each other, and negotiate strategies to make sure each person gets the stress relief they crave. Especially during these tough times, it can be a harsh universe out there. Keep your 'Home Planet' radiating positive energy so it will remain the harbor for love and personal growth.

Melodie Tucker is a Mars Venus Success Coach and Seminar Leader, trained by Dr. John Gray, author of the world famous "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" series. For the past 10 years, she has helped men and women all over the world create great relationships that last. If you'd like more information about this topic, want to learn how you can become a coach, or wish to have personal coaching for your specific situation, please contact her at the email address on her bio at: Melodie Tucker.

Comments (4)

Stress is not good atall
I am going to vacation next month, going to relieve some stress in europe :)
#4 - diane - 07/26/2012 - 10:09
Venus
Venus Success Coach and Seminar Leader , i agree this.
#3 - plywood fiyatlari - 07/02/2012 - 06:32
Mars and Venus
ye we are looking for new baby, thanks for this.
#2 - Anonymous - 07/02/2012 - 06:31
Birth Mother
Birth Mother Seeking Adoptive Family for her baby !!!!!
#1 - Judy - 03/12/2009 - 13:21
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