By Dr. Howard Peiper

 

 

Do we live our lives with our heart mostly open or mostly closed?Do we spend most of the time protecting against rejection or being taken advantage of, or is most of our time open to sharing love with others?

 

As children, many people had very heartbreaking experiences that caused them to close their heart. What experiences led us to closing our hearts?

 

 

 

 

 

  • Various forms of physical and/or sexual abuse.
  • Various forms of emotional abuse, such as criticism, judgment, blame, ridicule, sarcasm.
  • Being neglected, ignored, discounted, unseen.
  • Being engulfed and smothered by a parent – pulled on and used to fill their emptiness.
  • Rejection by parents, siblings, and/or peers.
  • Loss of a parent through divorce or death.
  • Loss of a beloved sibling, friend, or relative.
  • Physical defects that created limitation.

 

As children, when we experienced any of these and other very challenging situations, if there was no one there to lovingly help us through the pain, the heartbreak may have been too intense for us to manage and we might have closed our hearts to survive. We may have learned to be in our head rather than in our heart.

However, now, as adults, keeping our hearts closed has many negative consequences. While it was necessary for our survival as a child, now it is causing us a lot of pain. As adults, we all need to learn to lovingly manage our heartbreak without closing down.

 

What Happens When We Keep Our Hearts closed?

  • I feel alone and empty inside
  • I can’t feel connected with others
  • I turn to various addictions – food, drugs, alcohol, TV, sex, talking, anger, blame and so on, to fill my emptiness and take away my aloneness
  • My relationships are unsatisfying
  • Life is not fun
  • I feel anxious and/or depressed
  • I get sick a lot

 

Are we afraid to open our hearts? Are we afraid of being hurt and rejected, controlled and used? Are we afraid that if we open our hearts we will not be able to manage the heartache, heartbreak, loneliness, sadness, and sorrow of life?

 

 

How Can We Keep Our Hearts Open and Still Feel Safe?

 

We will start to feel safe when we learn to take emotional responsibility- responsibility of our own feelings. As a child, our bodies were too small to handle the big feelings of heartbreak and loneliness without the help of a loving adult. Today, our bodies are big enough to handle these feelings, but we still need the help of a loving adult. The difference is that now the loving adult needs to be us. We need to learn to be the loving adult capable of managing the painful feelings of life so that we don’t need to close our hearts and turn to addictions.

The loving adult is whom we are when we take responsibility and start to heal. When we do not take responsibility, we are operating from our wounded self. Our wounded self, coming from many fears and false beliefs, is not capable of handling the painful feelings of life. This is the part of us that closes our hearts to protect against pain, yet is now causing much of our own pain.

When we move out of the intent to protect against pain and into the intent about loving others, and ourselves then we move out of our wounded self. Our hearts naturally open when we choose the intent to learn rather than the intent to protect. It is our intent to protect against pain with various forms of controlling behavior that keeps our hearts closed.

 

Today, choose the intent to learn about loving others and ourselves and notice how we feel.

 

Dr. Howard Peiper, N.D., nominated for a Pulitzer Prize, has written several popular books on nutrition and natural health. His website is: www.walkthetalkproductions.com

 

 

About the Author:

Dr. Howard  Peiper is a nationally recognized expert in the holistic counseling field. His healing, health care and natural professional credentials extend over a thirty year period and include those of naturopath, author, lecturer, magazine consultant, radio personality and host of a television show, Partners in Healing. Visit his website www.walkthetalkproductions.com

Howard, nominated for a Pulitzer Prize, has written numerous books on nutrition and natural health including 12 best sellers…

Create a Miracle with Hexagonal Water: New Hope for Serious Diseases
The A.D.D. & A.D.H. Diet
Zeolite Nature's Heavy Metal Detoxifier
Viral Immunity with Humic Acid
The Secrets of Staying Young
Nutritional Leverage For Great Golf
All Natural High Performance
Diet
Natural Solutions For Sexual Enhancement
Disarmed

Super Nutrition for Dogs and Cats

Books can be ordered at:
Safe Goods Publishing

http://www.safegoodspub.com/orderinginformation.html

Dr. Peiper is co-host of the award winning Television show, Partners in Healing. They feature guest in the alternative healing field including such names as Harvey Diamond, Dr. John Upledger, Dr. Bernard Jensen, Gary Null and Dr. Marshall Mandell.

 

Dr. Howard Peiper

Dr. Howard Peiper

Dr. Howard  Peiper is a nationally recognized expert in the holistic counseling field. His healing, healthcare and natural professional credentials extend over a thirty year period and include those of naturopath, author, lecturer, magazine consultant, radio personality and host of a television show, Partners in Healing. Visit his website http://drhowardpeiper.wordpress.com

Howard, nominated for a Pulitzer Prize, has written numerous books on nutrition and natural health including 12 best sellers.

Create a Miracle with Hexagonal Water
New Hope for Serious Diseases
The A.D.D. & A.D.H. Diet
Zeolite Nature's Heavy Metal Detoxifier
Viral Immunity with Humic Acid
The Secrets of Staying Young
Nutritional Leverage For Great Golf
All Natural High Performance Diet
Natural Solutions For Sexual Enhancement
Disarmed
Super Nutrition for Dogs and Cats

Books can be ordered at:
Safe Goods Publishing.

Dr. Peiper is co-host of the award winning Television show, Partners in Healing. They feature guest in the alternative healing field including such names as Harvey Diamond, Dr. John Upledger, Dr. Bernard Jensen, Gary Null and Dr. Marshall Mandell.

 
Dr. Howard Peiper

Latest posts by Dr. Howard Peiper (see all)

https://www.familiesonlinemagazine.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/04/peiper.jpghttps://www.familiesonlinemagazine.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/04/peiper.jpgDr. Howard PeiperPath to a Better Lifehearts,Keeping,openBy Dr. Howard Peiper     Do we live our lives with our heart mostly open or mostly closed?Do we spend most of the time protecting against rejection or being taken advantage of, or is most of our time open to sharing love with others?...Parenting Advice and Family Fun Activities