Nanny to the Rescue
America's nanny offers a large dose of healthy parenting advice with secrets for raising happy, secure, and well-balanced babies and toddlers.
Babies don't come with instructions. And since today's parents are so overwhelmed with schedules and demands, they have little time to bone up on their parenting skills. Often removed from grandparents and relatives who in times past lived next door or just down the street, they have no one to guide them through the disorienting world of raising children. Enter Nanny to the Rescue! Michelle LaRowe, 2004 International Nanny Association "Nanny of the Year," gives her tried and true solutions to childcare. Her expertise with chapters titled "Who's the boss?" and "Discipline is not a four letter word" gives confidence to parents who need specific ideas for real day-to-day problems. A proud member of Christian Nannies, Michelle offers foundational truths sure to help encourage moms and dads.
Nanny To the Rescue Again
Faced with multiple choices regarding school, friends, and activities coupled with the ever-widening influence of the outside world, parents of 6-12 year olds need help. America's nanny is back to offer a large dose of healthy parenting advice with secrets for raising happy, secure, and well-balanced children.
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Im a Mom, Shes a Mom: Being an Adult with Your Parents
On one of her quarterly visits to see her grandson, my three-year-old
son, my mother ignores the available front seat of the car, crowds into
the back next to the car seat and promptly unwraps a lollipop. Feeling
the tension rising, I recall the numerous conversations where I so
proudly tell my mother how I keep sugar away from my son. "Mom, what
are you doing? Haven't you heard a word I said?" And so it starts. The
struggle of being an adult with my parent.
So much is written today about taking care of our parents as they age.
Monitoring medical care, determining living arrangements and providing
emotional support are the new roles that we have taken on to help our
parents age gracefully and with dignity. We are the "Sandwich
Generation," the growing number of adult children squeezed between
the needs of an aging parent and the demands of our own children,
spouses and careers. But not much is written about the stage prior to
this phase. That time when our parents are still healthy and active and
still very much involved in our own lives. I am talking about that period
of time when you, yourself, are an active adult, with a family and a
husband and life of your very own. That is when the struggle to be an
adult with your parents begins. So, which Mom really knows best?
As a Relationship Coach, I often hear, "My mother can get under my skin
in less than 10 seconds." After all these years, your parents can still find
ways to throw you off-balance and resurrect old habits. They are your
biggest fans and your harshest critics. And, whether we like to admit it
or not, we continue to want their approval no matter how old, how
independent or how successful we are. In short, your parent's opinions
remain extremely important. We want our Moms to respect our choices
and admire the lives that we created. After all, isn't our success a
reflection of their efforts as a mother? But sometimes, they seem so
quick to criticize. So what can we do?
Find New Ways to Connect
As a fellow mother and wife, we assume that the best way to connect
with our mothers is on issues of parenting, family and marriage.
However, these are often hot-bed issues which lead to unwanted
advise. Discover other mutual interests to talk about and share. Talk
about politics, take walks, meet at the gym, garden together, go to the
movies or theater, bring your Mother to your job so she can see where
you work and meet colleagues, join a book club. Enrich your
relationship by finding other ways to connect and other issues to talk
We have all heard this, but what exactly does it mean? In an effort to be
closer, we sometimes offer too much information. A small detail
becomes a point of scrutiny. It is all right to answer our parents'
questions with limited information. Be proactive. Offer information about
something you know your mother will ask about before she asks. This
puts the communication in your hands. Be clear with your mother. Do
not expect her to know which areas she can comment on and which
areas are off limits. It is your job as the adult child to define the limits.
But be careful, here. You cannot go both ways. You cannot tell your
mother that she cannot comment on your husband and then call her
when you have a fight with him. Call a girlfriend. Find another network
of support for that area.
Validate Feelings and Beliefs.
Your new ways of doing things may feel like a threat to your parents.
Without intending to, your way may seem like a personal attack against
the way you were raised. Feeling offended, your mother may try to
influence you either to retaliate or to create a comfort level. It is
important to share with your mom that, as an adult, you have taken all
that she has taught you to create new ways of doing things with your
family. You have needed to compromise and synthesize everyone's
ways to create a new way that works for all. Recognize that you and
your mother have a right to your own opinions, even if they are different
from each other.
Get a Guide
There is such a stigma in asking for help, especially for woman.
However, a third-party perspective can make all the difference in how
you communicate with your parents. This does not mean therapy or
counseling. Find a Coach, a guide or even clergy who specializes in
relationship issues. Be sure your Coach helps you both to focus on your
goals for the relationship. In other words, what do you want your future
with your Mom to be like? Do you really need to hash out and analyze
the past or are you ready to learn the skills to move forward? Also,
make sure your Coach can offer immediate tools to use to help you
diffuse potentially contentious situations.
"Why do you ask?" "How does that make you feel when I do that?"
"Why would you do it that way?" What is your mother's real intent when
she does something that gets under your skin? If asked, she would
probably be shocked that she hurt your feelings. Her intent was to help,
not hurt. What is behind that seemingly critical statement or probing
question? You may be surprised to find that she has her own agenda
that is separate from what seemed like a criticism. Before you react, ask
genuinely interested questions. This also takes the focus off of you and
As my mother offered my son the lollipop, I choked down my frustration
and sincerely asked her why she gave him the candy. Her answer
caught me off guard. She expressed how hard it was for her that she
lives so far away, that she could not help raise him and that she feared
he would forget her from visit to visit. She explained that in her limited
time with him, she wanted to bring pure joy and excitement and make
him feel special. As I listened to this, I recognized that to my mother, all
of that was represented in a lollipop. And what kind of mother was I to
deny my son all those wonderful feelings? I also recognized that I could
be true to my way of doing things and still love and respect my mother.
© 2004, XY Outlook, Inc.
Mimi Azoubel Daniel, MS, CEC is a Certified Life Coach specializing in
Relationship Coaching. She works with individuals, couples and
businesses to create strong healthy and satisfying relationships at home
and in the workplace. She conducts several workshops and is frequent
guest speaker. Specifically, Mimi offers the Lasting Marriage Program
and The "Y" Workshop, a non-denominational, premarital workshop. For
more information, visit http://www.xyoutlook.com.
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Is a Mothers Love, Medicine?
Minus all meningitis thoughts. The flu symptons were strong. Headache, burning fever and sore throat. So what does any natural mother do when their offspring takes ill. They smother him or her with a lot of TLC and would walk to the ends of the earth just to take away the pain and suffering.
Why First Borns Fuss, Seconds Are Resilient and Last Borns Like To Laugh
How can two or three children in the same family be so different? They are brought up in the same broad social environment, under a similar set of rules and an identical family value system. They also come from the same genetic pool yet they can be so different in personality, interests and achievement. While they may be born into the same family they are not born into the same position. The effects of their birth position have a significant impact on children, their behavior and their personalities. In order to really understand children it is useful to look at how their position in the family impacts on their development.
Parent Involvement: Finding Your Way in Middle School and High School
In elementary school it's pretty straightforward: bringing in cupcakes to help the room mother, reading a story to the class, or helping out at the science fair. Your child is happy - proud even-to have you be a part of his classroom activities. But then comes middle school. It's a new world.
What Do Chinese Water Torture and Arguing with Children Have in Common?
Imagine yourself lying flat on your back, totally strapped down onto a cold, hard table, unable to move any part of your body. You can't see anything around you because your eyes are covered. You find yourself imprisoned by the enemy and you have no where to go for help. The room is silent except for the slow, steady, drops of water that fall on your forehead.
Its a Sick World
It's no joy to be sick. It's even less joy when your child is sick. But the most unjoy is when you AND your child are sick together.
Children?s Birthday Party Planning: When and When Not to Have a Big Party
Age 1: Invite only family members and close friends only because this birthday is more for the parents than for the child. At age 1, a child doesn't understand the concept of "Birthday Party." He or she is getting a lot of attention---which is all a 1-year-old wants or understands anyway. You should not go overboard on presents because too much could scare or confuse a child. You should consider getting specialty items such as a plate that says "First Birthday," a 1-year-old candle, and possible a table cover that everyone could sign with fabric paint to have as keepsakes that can someday be shown (or given to) to your grown child.
Identifying Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder in the Classroom: Eight Things Teachers Should
Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is the phrase that is used to describe children who have significant problems with high levels of distractibility or inattention, impulsiveness, and often with excessive motor activity levels. There may be deficits in attention and impulse control without hyperactivity being present. In fact, recent studies indicate that as many as 40% of the ADD kids may not be hyperactive.
Parenting Your Teenager: The 4 Ds of Time with Family
How would you like to have more time? Of course we all want more time. There are just two problems: 1. We can't add more hours to the day; 2. Even if we could add more hours, we would just fill them up with the same stress we have now.
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The 411 on Natural Colic Remedies
Any parent whose baby has suffered from colic can tell you that colic is one of the most excruciating experiences ever imaginable. Nothing is worse than seeing one's baby in pain and not being able to help take it away. Finding relief for colic quickly becomes a top priority. There are many different colic remedies that may come to the rescue for your particular baby. Each baby is unique and may only respond to some or a combination of colic remedies. Unfortunately, parents may have to use the old trial and error method to determine which provide the greatest amount of relief for their little colic sufferer. One thing is certain?the days of "waiting it out" are long gone for those determined to find an answer. There is no need to suffer needlessly along with baby. If you've tried all proper feeding and burping techniques and baby is still crying, try the following list of the most effective remedies available:
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Top 10 Ways to Motivate Your Student
As the new school year begins, parents play a pivotal role in their child's success. Here are 10 tips for motivating your student from GoalSettingforStudents.com.1. Stress "I'll Make It Happen" words. Encourage your child to use positive, motivating words like yes, I can, and I will. 2. Minimize "Bummer Words." Avoid using negative or limiting language in discussions with your children. Some of the most common bummer words include no, can't, won't, never, maybe, and if. 3. Do the Basketball Shuffle with your child. Play the Basketball Shuffle to encourage independence and responsibility. Write "It's in your court NOW" on a basketball, and place it in the kitchen or family room to emphasize how the entire family gets the school year off to a good start. Then "pass" the ball to your child to show how he or she is now responsible. Your child can "pass" it back when they need help. The basketball becomes a fun, visual and practical way to emphasize your child's role in his or her education.4. Thank You, Ben Franklin. Ben Franklin used the following process week after week for fifty-seven years and claimed it made him a better and happier man. Develop thirteen character traits you and your child want to work on together. Consider honesty, fairness, self-control, order, sincerity, responsibility, self-respect, and kindness to others. Each week select one character trait, and, as a family, work to improve this trait. Provide rewards to the family member who shows the most improvement. Continue the process until you complete all thirteen weeks of character traits. 5. Stress the Importance of Goal Setting. Sit down with your child and set goals for the school year. According to John Bishop, author of the workbook, Goal Setting for Students®, "Students will take more personal ownership for their education when they learn how to set and achieve goals and how to use these principles in the classroom. They will embrace your efforts to help them succeed." 6. Accountability is a Two-Way Street. Both parents and students need to be accountable for a child's success in school. As adults, parents have to model responsible behavior for their children. Did you promise to volunteer at school, or help with the latest class project? Make sure you follow through. 7. Answer the "BIG" Question. At least three times per week have your child write down the following question, "Did I give my best effort to today's activities?" and record their answer. If their answer is "yes," reward them. If their answer is "no," have them list two things they will do tomorrow to improve their effort. Writing this question on paper (instead of just discussing it) will imprint the words in their minds. 8. Help Them Manage Their Time. Have a family meeting to discuss the weekly schedule. At the beginning of the school year, it is easy to sign up for too many activities, events and committees. How many activities will each child participate in? When will you have dinner together as a family? When will homework be done? What chores are each family member responsible for and when will they be done? Create a family calendar in a centralized location to keep everyone aware of the day's activities.9. Make it easy to study. Create a study area that fits your child's personality. Do they work best at a desk in a quiet area of their room? Or is the dining room table a better place to work? Does music distract them, or help them focus? Help your child determine the best way to study. Fill a tackle box with commonly used school supplies and keep it stocked. Prevent last-minute runs to the discount store by keeping poster board, extra notebooks, paper and other supplies on hand.10. Define success-in your child's eyes. Help your child define what success means to them. Bishop says, "Children need to know that success takes time; success takes planning and a strong desire; success takes setting and achieving goals; success involves helping others. Students need to know it's their achievement, not ours." With a few simple steps, parents can get their children off to a good start for the new school year.
Will My Child Ever Out-grow His Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder?
If your child has Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder then at some point you will be asking the question, "Will my child ever outgrow it?"
Two Means Trouble
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The POWER of Your Words
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Parenting - Give Your Child The Tools To Build Strong Character And Values
There are many parenting styles. Yours may be very different from your own parents, your siblings, or your neighbors. There is no right or wrong parenting style. If you are teaching your children basic values and good citizenship, you have already won half the battle. There are some basic character traits that are necessary for children to develop into good citizens and role models. Instilling these values in your children will provide them with a strong foundation on which they can base their lives and build their futures.
No, No, No -- What Else is a Parent to Say?
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Road Trip! Make It Fun For Your Toddler
If you had to spend 4 or 5 hours in a snug car seat with even snugger straps and nothing to do, you might not be a huge road trip fan either. Road trips are getting more fun for the younger set as portable and built-in DVD players become more and more common, but sometimes even watching videos gets old.
The Parent Teen Relationship: How Effective is Yours?
It was the homework that did it. Each night became a challenge in how I was going to get my son, a non-academic, to do his homework. I tried patience, encouragement, and teaching, all to no avail. I moved on to bribery, threats and punishment, still no success. Finally I tried anger, frustration and tears, but still no joy. At the end of my tether I knew it was time for a change.