WHY IS IT IMPORTANT TO IMPROVE
Sometimes, when all our doubts, fears and insecurities wrap ourselves
up, we always come up with the idea of “I wish I was somebody
else.” More often than not, we think and believe
that someone or rather, most people are better than us.- when in
reality, the fact is, most people are more scared than us.
You spot a totally eye-catching girl sitting by herself at a party,
casually sipping on a glass of Asti Spumanti. You think to yourself,
“she looks so perfectly calm and confident.” But if
you could read thru her transparent mind, you would see a bunch of
clouds of thoughts and you might just be amazed that she’s
thinking “are people talking about why I am seated here
alone?... Why don’t guys find me attractive? …I
don’t like my ankles, they look too skinny… I wish
I was as intelligent as my best friend.”
We look at a young business entrepreneur and say
“Wooh… what else could he ask for?” He
stares at himself at the mirror and murmur to himself, “I
hate my big eyes… I wonder why my friends won’t
talk to me… I hope mom and dad would still work things
Isn’t it funny? We look at other people, envy them for
looking so outrageously perfect and wish we could trade places with
them, while they look at us and thinks of the same thing. We are
insecure of other people who themselves are insecure of us. We suffer
from low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence and lose hope in self
improvement because we are enveloped in quiet desperation.
Sometimes, you notice that you have an irritating habit like biting off
your finger nails, having a foul mouth, and you – of all
people, is the last to know.
I have a friend who never gets tired of talking. And in most
conversations, she is the only one who seems to be interested in the
things she has to say. So all of our other friends tend to avoid the
circles whenever she’s around, and she
doesn’t notices how badly she became socially handicapped
– gradually affecting the people in her environment.
One key to self improvement is to LISTEN and TALK to a trusted friend.
Find someone who you find comfort in opening up with even the most
gentle topics you want to discuss. Ask questions like “do you
think I am ill-mannered?”, “Do I always
sound so argumentative?”, “Do I talk too
loud?”, “Does my breath
smell?”, “Do I ever bore you when were
together?”. In this way, the other person will
obviously know that you are interested in the process of self
improvement. Lend her your ears for comments and criticisms and
don’t give her answers like “Don’t
exaggerate! That’s just the way I am!”
Open up your mind and heart as well. And in return, you may want to
help your friend with constructive criticism that will also help her
improve her self.
One of Whitney Houston’s songs says “Learning to
love yourself is the greatest love of all.” True enough. In
order to love others, you must love yourself too. Remember, you cannot
give what you do not have.
Before telling other people some ways on how to improve themselves, let
them see that you yourself is a representation and a product of self
improvement. Self improvement makes us better people, we then inspire
other people, and then the rest of the world will follow.
Stop thinking of yourselves as second-rate beings. Forget the
repetitive thought of “If only I was richer… if
only I was thinner” and so on. Accepting your true
self is the first step to self improvement. We need to stop comparing
ourselves to others only to find out at the end that we’ve
got 10 more reasons to envy them.
We all have our insecurities. Nobody is perfect. We always wish we had
better things, better features, better body parts, etc. But life need
not to be perfect for people to be happy about themselves.Self
improvement and loving yourself is not a matter of shouting to the
whole world that you are perfect and you are the best. It’s
the virtue of acceptance and contentment. When we begin to improve
ourselves, we then begin to feel contented and happy.
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