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Dr. Howard Peiper, N.D. – Path to a Better Life –

Love is our Soul purpose. Our life direction is the trajectory we take, or the story we weave to get to that place of deeper love of self and other. Self is not selfish in an egoism self-centered fashion, rather it is the honoring of the place within us that is larger than our personal life story, or is our Higher Self/Higher Power/God.

Oscar Wilde once said: To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance. Isn’t that a delicious and outrageous thought? Who doesn’t want to rediscover themselves and fall in self-love again; to re-invent our lives and feel that sense of self? Or maybe we are more humble and simply want to have a more determining say in our destiny and fate; and perhaps like a good makeover, we confess it’s an intriguing idea.

Most of us believe, as Mother Teresa said: We can’t all do great things, but we can do small things in great ways. It’s not always about what we do in life that truly matters, but how we do what we do. And how we speak about what we do. Life purpose isn’t about quitting our day job and moving to India to work in an orphanage, although that might be perfect for some. Life purpose evolves as we find meaning in whatever we do, and we do this by bringing to consciousness what we have kept in the unconscious; in our shadow. This term shadow is about all those very human things we disown about ourselves’things we tend to not see or that we dislike, and all those things we tend to project upon others who either irritate us. Yet this shadow also holds the gold,those noble tendencies and talented parts of ourselves that we have been too blind to see.

So, What is Love?

L for listen Ask our friend what’s wrong, and really listen to the answer. Let them vent their fears, frustrations and other important feelings, maintaining eye contact and showing that we’re interested in what they have to say. Resist the urge to give advice, and just let them get it out. Reframe what we hear. Summarize and repeat back our understanding of what they’re saying so they know we’re hearing them, and focus on the emotions they might be feeling. For example, if our friend is talking about family problems, we might find ourselves saying it looks like things are getting pretty hostile. You sound like you’re feeling hurt. Ask about feelings. Ask them to expand on what they’re feeling. Asking about their feelings provides a good emotional release and might be more helpful than just focusing on the facts of their situation.

O for overlook What is it? It is simply the ability of people to be together and not focus on problems. What type of problems? A problem free relationship is the one in harmony, and when or where there is harmony, there is peace. Problem, whether big or small, would arise which creates disharmony. It is simply the ability of people to be together and overlook pettiness. What type of problems? A problem free relationship is the one in harmony, and when or where there is harmony, there is peace. Problem, whether big or small, would arise when the level of compatibility is low, and the issues involved are mainly those compatibility issues that the couples should not have overlooked. True compatibility is not measured by the argument about the positioning of the T.V. or what the color of the window blind in the visitors” room should be.

for voice control Trusting relationships with others help us avoid depression after life stresses and help prevent illness, speed recovery, and promote longevity. But an unhealthy relationship can cause depression and make our life seem like hell. Unfortunately, people with bad tempers cause a great deal of the stresses we face today. In the best relationships, the partners calmly and tactfully talk about irritations, disagreements, and conflicts without blaming each other and then problem solve, negotiate, and compromise. Occasional arguments with yelling can feel good when it unearths important issues and leads to problem solving, but it often results in hurt feelings, sabotages problem solving so that problems become chronic, damage trust and closeness, and may lead to a partner feeling very justified in lying or deceiving by omission. Instead, develop a confiding relationship of sharing feelings, not just facts, and receiving acceptance, understanding, and emotional support from each other. Research shows that sharing feelings is much more important to closeness and happiness than the sharing of facts.

for encouragement Relationships, including the one we have with ourselves, can be viewed as a lifelong and sometimes, an arduous journey. At the outset, most everything seems fun and exciting, including challenges. Early on we are intent on showing the most positive aspects of ourselves to others. If our newfound love is experiencing difficulty, we tend to offer cheerleading, support, and encouragement as a way to help. Through these actions, we let the others know that we will be there through the struggle and that we believe in his or her capacity to successfully navigate the issue. Sadly, as the journey continues, our focus tends to shift. Support and encouragement somehow are permutated into advice-giving, blame, and even downright negativity. Forgotten is the simple sense of excitement that characterized even the most difficult challenges in the early stages of the journey and lost are the encouraging words and deeds that helped us and our partner to successfully navigate the journey together.

Dr. Howard Peiper, N.D. nominated for a Pulitzer Prize, has written several bestselling books on nutrition and natural health.

Dr. Howard Peiper

Dr. Howard Peiper

Dr. Howard  Peiper is a nationally recognized expert in the holistic counseling field. His healing, healthcare and natural professional credentials extend over a thirty year period and include those of naturopath, author, lecturer, magazine consultant, radio personality and host of a television show, Partners in Healing. Visit his website http://drhowardpeiper.wordpress.com

Howard, nominated for a Pulitzer Prize, has written numerous books on nutrition and natural health including 12 best sellers.

Create a Miracle with Hexagonal Water
New Hope for Serious Diseases
The A.D.D. & A.D.H. Diet
Zeolite Nature's Heavy Metal Detoxifier
Viral Immunity with Humic Acid
The Secrets of Staying Young
Nutritional Leverage For Great Golf
All Natural High Performance Diet
Natural Solutions For Sexual Enhancement
Disarmed
Super Nutrition for Dogs and Cats

Books can be ordered at:
Safe Goods Publishing.

Dr. Peiper is co-host of the award winning Television show, Partners in Healing. They feature guest in the alternative healing field including such names as Harvey Diamond, Dr. John Upledger, Dr. Bernard Jensen, Gary Null and Dr. Marshall Mandell.

 
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