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Being a Teen is Tough

Stop the Stress!

Though the flowers may be blooming and the sun may be shining in the clear blue sky, as spring approaches, many teenagers are too busy or stressed out to even notice! Between all the tests, homework, and dealings with friends and family, being a teenager is tough. In fact, sometimes it feels like there is barely enough time in the day to breathe. So put down that SAT booklet, turn off the computer and start relaxin' with these comforting tips.

Take a warm bath: if you are feeling creative, you can even concoct a homemade bubble bath!

Cup of Tea: Unlike coffee, which stimulates our brains, the soothing effects of hot herbal tea are endless. Try to omit any additives though- lumping in the sugar or adding sweetener can decrease the benefits of tea leaves.

Talk to a friend: Sometimes, talking to someone who has been in your shoes, or is currently in a similar situation can be reassuring. Over lunch, on the phone or even between classes, it's relieving to share your uncertainties and problems instead of bottling them up inside, which isn't very pleasant for you or those around you!

Play with a pet: Studies show that playing with a pet can reduce tension and sadness. So if you can't remember the last time you played fetch with Scruffy, head outside and have a ball! And when both of you are tuckered out, give yourselves a treat!

Take a walk: You know what they say- take a hike! There's nothing more peaceful than enjoying nature on a crisp, clear day. Even a brisk jaunt will put you in a better mood! If you want, bring a camera and take pictures of your journey. A grasshopper, flower gardens, a broken, abandoned fence- there is beauty all around us; it's just a matter of looking for it.

Comments (14)

I'm constantly crying, stressing out and shouting at everyone. I don't mean to but I feel like people go out of their way to annoy but I know it's not true! I am always worrying about something whether it's homework or how I look! I'm always looking down on myself and comparing myself to others. Someone help me, I'm going through a life crisis! :-(
#14 - Amy - 11/06/2012 - 17:02
maybe you just need some different friends, try some new activities or s school clubs, sports... something to find some mates who have thing sin common with you and I bet you have a whole new set of friends before you know it -- things and people change during the teen years usually it's an opportunity disguised as a problem.
#13 - Greta - 08/07/2012 - 13:51
well^it might be your period

and im 14 and i dont if i stressed or what but i feel im loosing my mates, i dont go out cause its stressful and none of my mates ask me to i dunno why . i dunno whats happening but if my mates where pissed at me wouldnt they say , i think they would cause their honest, and but i dont wanna loose them and i dont wanna be antisocial or the person that stands at the side cause really nonne of the people like her and havnt told her and she's oblivious that she has noone . ive tryed to talk to them, some reply but are short with mee and dont seem pissed off cause there normal and some ignore and i dunno what it is i need advice i guess but i just dont wanna loose them. when i try to go out with themi get no replys when i wanna say - lets meet tomorrow;)- so i cant look like a fool and say it all the time if i know im getting no replys. i just dont wanna end up saying the wrong thing. do they all like me ? or do they talk about me b/h my back i dont bloody know i just dont wanna loose them. i dont kow what i could of done i dont remember doing anything..?
#12 - ray jones (california gm5 3u1) - 08/05/2012 - 12:04
Why am I so freaked out?!
So I\'m 14 years Old and I just started having trouble with a stomach ache. The worst part is I\'ve missed 2days of school because I was in my bed and i can\'t fall asleep because my brian is all over the place and it\'s giving me panic attacks and I don\'t know what my mind it doing. Why do I feel like this, and is it causing my stomach ache?
#11 - Laura - 05/09/2012 - 09:31
Help please
Hi, I'm 14 years old
I have so much stress, Most of the time I can't even handle it,
I recently moved i used to be living
with my grandmother Now I'm with my mother
But, It feels like my life is completely over now.
All my friends are gone
and my mother doesn't let me have any contact with them i get to talk to them maybe once or twice ever 2 weeks
& it feels like i don't have anything else to live for,
I break down every time i hear my best friends name I know that people aren't talking about her but Just hearing her name is enough to make me feel empty inside.
I'll wake up in the middle of the night having a panic attack because of all the stress. My mother doesn't make the situation any better either she tells me move on it'll be fine here stop whining cause you have no friends deal with it,
She'll yell at me for crying and missing my friends. Then if something goes wrong she automatically blames me for everything,Me and her don't get along at all I told her she needs to start leaving me alone and she always says it's not my fault your an emotional wreck, she says so much crap to me such as : Your worthless, Why did you have to be my daughter
Why can't you be like such and such.

The worthless and why do you have to be my daughter are the ones that really get to me
I've locked myself in the bathroom multiple times just to get away, But it's not helping School work is getting worse and worse I need advice real bad, Please help me i cant do it anymore. >-(
#10 - Torii - 11/17/2010 - 04:44
Hi, I'm 14 years old and i've been Getting into ""pressure attacks"" well it is stress, sevear pressure and crying all of a sudden. I've been having ALOT of school work, quizes but i have to live with it cause it's highschool not to mesnsion chres around the house. what makes me go under these is when my mom starts yelling she is uptight and when i HAVE TO do something and i have no choice to say no. My friends may care sometimes but i can't share anything with my brother. I try to tell him about what goes on with my life but i just don't know how. it's just that i can't find the time and obviously i cann't go talk to my mom and tell her cause she''ll be in my bussinuss, one more thing i can't seem to be making the right desicions and my friends call be a kissup. PLEASE HELP!! I can't take it anymore.:-(
#9 - Need to get over this madness! - 09/30/2010 - 12:06
i'm being forced to move across the country and i really don't like my step family i'm forced to leave all of my friends my mom almost died because of a virus my real dad lives in Florida i live in Tennessee the last time i saw him i was 7 i'm 13 and try so hard in school and i do OK a&b but its never good enough some moments feel so over whelming i fell so stressed i don't know which way is up or down and i barley have any time for myself.
#8 - Nicki - 07/02/2010 - 19:48
i get stressed alot and im in secondary school but the thing is im always falling out with my friends because im always stressed at them and i hate been stressed but bieng stressed makes me stress even more and defintely if wen im stressed people laugh at me but its just so hard coz i hate being stressed and i have stopped going out now to coz im that stressy around people does anybody have any advice for me ? x:-)
#7 - charlotte - 05/12/2010 - 12:08
Im 15& im not doing good in school& my parents are always mad& they dont understand im trying.): They are always putting me down&im always crying.IM SO STRESSED!!! Ugh. idk i just wanna curl up in a ball& get away from everybody. Nobody understands me. I lost alll my friends& i really want somebody to talk to): but nobody will listen. & no matter what i do or say i make people hate me>-( please give me advice )):
#6 - Kelsey - 04/06/2010 - 21:46
I know how you all feel.
All I want is for all my friends to be happpy, but everytime I plan to go out there are always complications. I don't like going out anymore because I get so stressed for no reason. I try not to stress but I cant help it. Im afraid if I do or say the wrong thing people will get upset.
#5 - S.M.L - 02/17/2010 - 05:08
I know. It always seems like your parents don't know what your talking about. When ever I ask my mum to do something shes always like I'm busy or something. And just like every teenage girl there is this guy and I like him and we talk ll the time but he doesn't know I like him. I feel like i always want to cry and the only person that i spill my feelings to lives like 3000 miles away from me. I usually see her every summer but this year my dad was like no I don't want you to go. I just started highschool this year and all my friends went to a different school. I never see them anymore and I always feel like they don't like me. helppp me pleasee!!!! I am confusedd and have no idea what to do. thankss
#4 - Sarah, - 07/15/2009 - 21:56
too much stress to handle

I never used to be stressed, i used to love life but now i just hate it. :-(
Nothing is working out for me; i have a piano exam coming up and i dont have time to practise so i get stressed when playing the piece to my teacher.
And this boy i want to get to know, wont even look at me!
And my mum is CONSTANTLY telling me off and she keeps sighing and saying things like 'my life is so hard' and i feel like saying 'im stressed too!'>-(
Also, i have a few best friends but i was really really best friends with one girl (lets call her Millie) but now one of the other best friends (lets call her Lydia) is spending loads of time with her. Of course them spending time together is ok, not a problem its just now they dont do anything separate. Whenever i talk to Millie, its like Lydia just has to be part of that conversation. She always says things like 'what were you saying?' whenever i was just talking to Millie. I kept telling myself that they dont mean to, but i just feel left out. They also just agree with each other like if one disagreed with an idea, the other would. It really stresses me out! The when one of them wants to go somewhere (e.g-the refectory) the other offers to go with her and they dont bother to ask if i want to come. :-(
Also, my group of friends today just left me in my classroom - i was putting some things away and they said 'lets go outside' and i was nearly done but when i turned round they had gone. They just left me:-o
Also, i feel like people treat me like an idiot, in Maths for example i dont understand something at a point then the girl im next to (and friends with) sighs at me in sympathy saying 'its not that hard, you do this....this...' and explains it slowly and im just like 'look im not dumb!'
AND as if things couldnt get any more stressful, this girl (lets call her Harriet) who is also one of my best friends, whenever the two that are now always together would go somewhere, i would talk to her. But whenever i try to show her something, she doesnt listen to me! Like at a computer i tried to show her something but she kept her eyes on her own screen! It really bothered me :-(

Pleasee help me, i cant take it anymore :'(
Also, my pet guinea pig dieda few years ago and i really miss her because i always played with her. Then my grandparents dog, who i was very close to, died too. I just feel like my life isnt mine anymore :'(:-(:-(:-(:-(:-o
#3 - very-stressed. - 07/02/2009 - 18:33
I wanna help..
Hello, Im 17 years old. I know exactly how you are feeling. I cry for no reason at all ALOT. School can be stressful. ive only left school a year ago and already miss it. Dont take all the gossiping and falling out too seriously, trust me once you left you look back at it and just laff. Things will get easyer. x
#2 - Someone who wants to help - 03/24/2009 - 19:35
Hiya, im 15 teen years old, and im always stressing at everybody for no reason at all, and sometimes im crying and people ask me why and half of the time i don't know. But i have loads of coursework at school, friendships are always falling out because every one is gossiping about everyone. is there any advice you could give to me please :-D Thanks. x
#1 - Jade - 10/10/2008 - 17:05
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Jillian Bietz, Teen columnist, enjoys reading, creative writing, acting and cooking.

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