Time Is The Best Gift
By Sharon Scott, LPC, LMFT – Smile Notes
On the first day of Christmas, my true love gave to me,. I’m sure you know that carol The Twelve Days of Christmas.During this holiday time, parents often go overboard trying to give their children everything their hearts desire.From many decades of counseling what children tell me they want is more TIME with their parents. TIME without distractions of parent’s cell phones, computers, TV etc. are requests I often hear.
I predict that if you tuck your child in at bedtime that the child often begins talking about their day. You may think it’s just a way to stay up later. I contend that it’s because the child has your undivided attention. If you have multiple children, they have to share you with their siblings. To have time with you ALONE is of paramount importance!
So I challenge you to, like the song, have your twelve days of Christmas’doing something fun for twelve days during the holidays. I’m not suggesting you spend more money,or even leave home,to give your child the gift of your TIME. It could be to play a board game, bake cookies together, string popcorn for the tree, work a jigsaw puzzle, watch a Christmas movie with popcorn and hot chocolate (sitting with them the whole time!), plan a charity project to help others (sweep or clean an elderly neighbor’s driveway), teach how to cook a dish, play with the family companion animal, drive around and look at Christmas lights, bake Christmas candy and wrap up for gifts for neighbors, go window shopping, do some sort of physical activity (biking, skating, skiing) etc.
That’s my twelve ideas’you decide what your ideas might be! You could even take a few photos of your twelve days of Christmas and make a little album to remember this special TIME! And, if your family sings then write your own lyrics! Have fun,and put that credit card away,it’s not needed!
Copyright © 2015, Sharon Scott. No reproduction without written permission of author.
P.S. Please see my other column How to Say No and Keep Your Friends, Part 3.
The guide for parents/educators on how to peer-proof children and teens is Peer Pressure Reversal: An Adult Guide to Developing a Responsible Child, 2nd Ed.
Her popular book for teens, How to Say No and Keep Your Friends, 2nd Ed., empowers kids to stand out,not just fit in!
A follow-up book for teens, When to Say Yes! And Make More Friends, shows adolescents how to select and meet quality friends and, in general, feel good for doing and being good.
Sharon also has a charming series of five books for elementary-age children each teaching an important living skill and "co-authored" with her savvy cocker spaniel Nicholas who makes the learning fun.Their book on managing elementary-age peer pressure is titled Too Smart for Trouble.
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