10 Tips for Stress-less Parenting

by Brenda Nixon

dad and sonStress is anything we perceive as out of our control. I adopted this definition because it explains why we each stress over different issues: finances, traffic, health, work, weight, interruptions, family, and friends.

However, in raising kids, we all feel out of control at times. Comedian Martin Mull quipped, Parenting is like having a bowling alley in your head. Sometimes were frazzled when we don’t understand our kid’s behavior or whats normal. Often its because we second guess our own childrearing skills.

As an educator, working with thousands of young parents, and as a mom, I realize the stress, guilt, frustration and panic in raising kids today. But knowledge is power and the more we know, the more were able to respond as confident, competent parents.

To empower new parents with education and encouragement, I wrote Parenting Power in the Early Years (WinePress Publishing). From Great Expectations to toilet teaching to know if your child is ready for kindergarten, there are insights, answers, and guidance.

To begin with, there’s no one right way to parent and every kid is different. You’re probably doing better than you think. But, when you’re feeling vexed, take heart and remember:

  1. All kids can and do misbehave.
  2. There are no perfect kids.
  3. There are no perfect parents.
  4. Physical affection is therapeutic; give and receive hugs.
  5. See humor (somewhere) in the situation.
  6. Take a break; exercise, listen to soothing music, read a chapter in a book, or enjoy a cup of coffee.
  7. Talk to other adults to ease your frustration.
  8. Wisdom is knowing what to overlook.
  9. Practice self-care; eat right and sleep when your kids do.
  10. Get your parenting power before your kids are in elementary school or older.

Albert Einstein said,”Sometimes what counts can’t be counted, and what can be counted doesn’t count.” This applies to raising kids. As indicated in Parenting Power in the Early Years, real parenting power comes when you relax and enjoy your kids the spontaneous free time with them counts! Its giving children what they really need. Parenting is your brief opportunity to learn, laugh, love, and grow. And dont fret over all the right clothes, toys, schools, or fads they dont count in the long haul.

 

 

 

 

 

Patti Hermes

Patti Hermes, Parent to Parent, is living the dream with her high school sweetheart, raising their boys in the Midwest because it's a good starting point for epic road trips. While writing, reading and homeschooling take up most of her time, she still blogs at https://writesforchocolate.blogspot.com.
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