Be Who You Really Are
By Sharon Scott, LPC, LMFT
January is often thought of as the month of reflecting on the year to come—possibly setting some goals (often called resolutions if made on January 1st). If you live in the northern hemisphere it’s a cold month… nature is still… waiting…
I think we could (dare I say should?) also slow down and learn to be at peace. This is a life skill that few too many young people are learning with their texting, Facebooking, XBoxing world. And the adults lead the way with their own techtronics. Being in the moment is the only way to truly savor that moment. It’s the only time we have to reflect on our authentic self and know what we really desire in this world.
I love this quote by Margaret Young:
“Often people attempt to live their lives backwards: they try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want so that they will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then, do what you need to do, in order to have what you want.”
Are you pretty much the same person wherever you go? I hope so. Some of us feel the need to have different personalities for different groups of colleagues or friends. When you can truly be yourself (your own best self) wherever you go, you will find peace as you will like who you are.
Let’s stop thinking that things will make us happy so that we are healthy role models for our children. Let’s learn to give ourselves positive self-talk, rather than the stinkin’ thinkin’ we save for ourselves (for no valid reason!) Let’s learn to comment more on what’s right in our lives than what’s missing. Let’s catch our children doing good and praise them. Let’s complain and nag less. And let’s be grateful for what we have.
Wishing you peace and joy in 2012!
P. S. Please visit my other column Counselor’s Corner.
Copyright © 2016, Sharon Scott. No reproduction without written permission from author.
The guide for parents/educators on how to peer-proof children and teens is Peer Pressure Reversal: An Adult Guide to Developing a Responsible Child, 2nd Ed.
Her popular book for teens, How to Say No and Keep Your Friends, 2nd Ed., empowers kids to stand out,not just fit in!
A follow-up book for teens, When to Say Yes! And Make More Friends, shows adolescents how to select and meet quality friends and, in general, feel good for doing and being good.
Sharon also has a charming series of five books for elementary-age children each teaching an important living skill and "co-authored" with her savvy cocker spaniel Nicholas who makes the learning fun.Their book on managing elementary-age peer pressure is titled Too Smart for Trouble.