happy dad and daughter By Dr. Howard Peiper – Path to a Better Life

Being our own authority does not mean being an authority for anyone else! It just means that we don’t let any one else become an authority for us. 

Everyone is free to choose, including us, and everyone is responsible for the choice that he or she makes. How else could it be?

Many people try to cross these clear lines of responsibility, but doing so only clouds their perception of reality. Don’t be a glutton for punishment. Honor these lines and we will honor each other. First understand that we are not taking responsibility for our self when:

1. We let someone else make choices for us.

2. We make choices for someone else.

That is co-dependence. It is not empowering to our self or the other person. It may appear to gain us a temporary advantage, but we pay for that advantage by forfeiting our freedom to choose our own life.

It’s great to listen to others and learn from others. Intimate sharing is essential to our spiritual growth. It gives us feedback that we can use to expand our perceptions. But others do not know what we need. Even psychics and other intuitive persons cannot tell us what we need to know. They may supply an important piece of information or they may not. Either way, we are the person who needs to use this information to find our peace.


Understand that there are limits on what anyone can tell us that will be truly helpful. Those limits apply to what we can tell others. The most help we can give or receive from others is encouragement. Anything more than that is rarely helpful.

Authority comes directly out of experience. It says: “I honor my life. I accept what is true for me, even if it is not true for others.”

Inner authority is inconsistent with prescribing for others. As soon as we try to make others fit with our values and beliefs, we undercut the power of those values and beliefs in our own life. As much as we need the agreement of others to honor our own life, we have lost touch with our inner authority.

Everyone has the right, indeed the responsibility to say “This is true for me. This works for me.” This is an important self-affirmation. For nobody’s life is exactly like ours. Our experiences are unique, and need to be accepted as such.

Anyone who attempts to deny us the integrity of our experience denies his or her own experience as well. It is impossible to affirm oneself by denying others.

So all of our energy that is invested in denial and judgment of others keeps us from our guidance and our truth. We don’t begin to know what is true for us until we honor the experience of others. Conversely, we don’t begin to hear our own truth as long as we are more invested in the experience of others than we are in our own experience. Authority comes from within and stops at the skin.

Our authority sets boundaries on our own desire to choose when that desire infringe on the freedom and responsibility of others to choose for themselves. It also empowers us to choose for our self when others would make choices for us. Our authority is consistent with and equal to their authority. We cannot deny or overstep their authority without inviting us to do the same. In that sense, our fidelity to our own experience supports their innocence as well as ours.

The authority issue is one of the most profound issues we will ever deal with. There is not one of us who will not puff him/herself up and beat him/herself into the ground. We do not learn our existential authority until we see the falsehood of our ego-based authority. It comes from simple acceptance of ourselves and others.

Those who have illusions of superiority over others often harbor unconscious feeling of inferiority. And those who consistently defer to the strength or wisdom of others often harbor unconscious feelings of superiority. Strangely enough, neither person playing the superior role nor the person playing the inferior role has the willingness to stand alone with his or her convictions. In one-way or another, both seek the support and agreement of others.

Being our own authority, means to learn to be who we truly are and learn to see others as they truly are. Practice equality. Learn from inequality. Accept the process. Use it to align and grow.

“Make someone happy today, mind our own business”


Dr. Howard Peiper

Dr. Howard Peiper

Dr. Howard  Peiper is a nationally recognized expert in the holistic counseling field. His healing, healthcare and natural professional credentials extend over a thirty year period and include those of naturopath, author, lecturer, magazine consultant, radio personality and host of a television show, Partners in Healing. Visit his website https://drhowardpeiper.wordpress.com

Howard, nominated for a Pulitzer Prize, has written numerous books on nutrition and natural health including 12 best sellers.

Create a Miracle with Hexagonal Water
New Hope for Serious Diseases
The A.D.D. & A.D.H. Diet
Zeolite Nature's Heavy Metal Detoxifier
Viral Immunity with Humic Acid
The Secrets of Staying Young
Nutritional Leverage For Great Golf
All Natural High Performance Diet
Natural Solutions For Sexual Enhancement
Super Nutrition for Dogs and Cats

Books can be ordered at:
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Dr. Peiper is co-host of the award winning Television show, Partners in Healing. They feature guest in the alternative healing field including such names as Harvey Diamond, Dr. John Upledger, Dr. Bernard Jensen, Gary Null and Dr. Marshall Mandell.

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