By Dr. Howard Peiper, N.D. – Path to a Better Life

We all know who are “victims”, people who view their lives like “It’s not my fault. They (or it) did it to me.” When we understand what the feeling of victimization really is, where it comes from, and how it affects people, we will discover it is even more widespread and debilitating we might think.

The primary source of feeling like a victim is the feeling of powerlessness and, because we don’t like feeling that we are powerless, we tend to blame someone or something for causing that feeling. So we feel that we are a victim of circumstances or other people’s actions and we can’t do anything about it. Being a victim is experiencing us at the effect of something outside ourselves. Thus the single most important belief responsible for the feeling of victimization is “I’m powerless. Other beliefs that could underlie this feeling include: “I’ll never get what I want”, “People can’t be trusted” and “Life is difficult”.

Feeling victimized is so debilitating that it undermines our ability to do anything about our situation. If we are having difficulties in any area of our lives, such as relationships or money and we experience ourselves as powerful and in control of our lives, we can devise a strategy to improve our situation. And if one doesn’t work, we can learn from our experience and try again. But, if we have a victim mentality we feel powerless to affect our circumstances, we are likely to feel that the world is “doing it” to us and that there is nothing we can do about it. If we have the problem of feeling victimized by life or other people’s actions, we are less likely to look for and implement a solution because we feel we can’t do anything about our situation.


Most victims can be identified by their conversation, which consists of a lot of “woe is me” and “it’s not my fault” language. However, there also is the stoic victim. Such people do not complain and keep a stiff upper lip, but underneath they experience a sense of victimization. Such people frequently don’t even let themselves know how they are feeling. So victims are not just people who speak victimization, but also those who have that experience underneath a veneer of confidence and "Everything’s okay, really it is".

Here are a few other important characteristics of victims:


Victims are usually angry at the people or events they think have “done them wrong”, and underneath the feeling of anger is almost always the feeling of powerlessness.

Victims don’t have resilience, which is the ability to quickly bounce back after being knocked down.

People who are victims deny responsibility for their own actions. They are quick to blame other people and situations for anything that doesn’t work in their lives.

Victims do not realize that they have choices whether to react to other people’s actions or not "buy into it".

Victims generally are passive.

So, if we are a victim or know someone else who is, what can we do to help ourselves or the other person? Fortunately, the source of this problem is similar to the source of almost every other problem: our beliefs. Reality and other people are causing us to feel like a victim; our beliefs (old messages) are. Letting go of the beliefs that cause the problem and the feeling of victimization will either lessen and/or disappear for good.

"I am not a victim of other peoples actions".

Dr. Howard Peiper, N.D., nominated for a Pulitzer Prize, has written several best selling books on nutrition and natural health. His website is:

Dr. Howard Peiper

Dr. Howard Peiper

Dr. Howard  Peiper is a nationally recognized expert in the holistic counseling field. His healing, healthcare and natural professional credentials extend over a thirty year period and include those of naturopath, author, lecturer, magazine consultant, radio personality and host of a television show, Partners in Healing. Visit his website

Howard, nominated for a Pulitzer Prize, has written numerous books on nutrition and natural health including 12 best sellers.

Create a Miracle with Hexagonal Water
New Hope for Serious Diseases
The A.D.D. & A.D.H. Diet
Zeolite Nature's Heavy Metal Detoxifier
Viral Immunity with Humic Acid
The Secrets of Staying Young
Nutritional Leverage For Great Golf
All Natural High Performance Diet
Natural Solutions For Sexual Enhancement
Super Nutrition for Dogs and Cats

Books can be ordered at:
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Dr. Peiper is co-host of the award winning Television show, Partners in Healing. They feature guest in the alternative healing field including such names as Harvey Diamond, Dr. John Upledger, Dr. Bernard Jensen, Gary Null and Dr. Marshall Mandell.

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