“A Piece of Blarney Stone” 10
ways to empower your communication

The Blarney Stone is a historical stone, or actually part of the
Blarney Castle in Ireland where it was believed that kissing the stone
can grant you the gift of gab. Yeah, it seems strange in this day and
age, but who are we to question tradition? It’s not like I’m saying
that Santa Claus doesn’t exist (OOPS!).

There is so much to know about conversation that anyone, even I, could
ever realize. You can go though watching talk shows; radio programs;
clubs dedicated to public speaking; ordinary conversations; certain
rules still apply when it comes to interaction through words. It may
sound tedious, I know, but even though it’s your mouth that’s doing the
work, your brain works twice as hard to churn out a lot of things you
know. So what better way to start learning to be an effective
communication is to know the very person closest to you: yourself.

1. What you know.

Education is all about learning the basics, but to be an effective
speaker is to practice what you’ve learned. My stint as guest at every
Toastmasters’ meeting I go to taught me that we all have our
limitations, but that doesn’t mean we can’t learn to keep up and share
what we know.

2. Listening.

It’s just as important as asking questions. Sometimes listening to the
sound of our own voice can teach us to be a little bit confident with
ourselves and to say the things we believe in with conviction.

3. Humility

We all make mistakes, and sometimes we tend to slur our words, stutter,
and probably mispronounce certain words even though we know what it
means, but rarely use it only to impress listeners. So in a group,
don’t be afraid to ask if you’re saying the right word properly and if
they’re unsure about it then make a joke out of it. I promise you it’ll
make everyone laugh and you can get away with it as well.

4. Eye Contact

There’s a lot to say when it comes to directing your attention to your
audience with an eye-catching gaze. It’s important that you keep your
focus when talking to a large group in a meeting or a gathering, even
though he or she may be gorgeous.

5. Kidding around

A little bit of humor can do wonders to lift the tension, or worse
boredom when making your speech. That way, you’ll get the attention of
the majority of the crowd and they’ll feel that you’re just as
approachable, and as human to those who listen.

6. Be like the rest of them

Interaction is all about mingling with other people. You’ll get a lot
of ideas, as well as knowing what people make them as they are.

7. Me, Myself, and I

Admit it, there are times you sing to yourself in the shower. I know I
do! Listening to the sound of your own voice while you practice your
speech in front of a mirror can help correct the stress areas of your
pitch. And while you’re at it you can spruce up as well.

8. With a smile

A smile says it all much like eye contact. There’s no point on
grimacing or frowning in a meeting or a gathering, unless it’s a wake.
You can better express what you’re saying when you smile.

9. A Role Model

There must be at least one or two people in your life you have listened
to when they’re at a public gathering or maybe at church. Sure they
read their lines, but taking a mental note of how they emphasize what
they say can help you once you take center stage.

10. Preparation

Make the best out of preparation rather than just scribbling notes and
often in a hurried panic. Some people like to write things down on
index cards, while other resort to being a little more silly as they
look at their notes written on the palm of their hand (not for clammy
hands, please). Just be comfortable with what you know since you enjoy
your work.

And that about wraps it up. These suggestions are rather amateurish in
edgewise, but I’ve learned to empower myself when it comes to public or
private speaking and it never hurts to be with people to listen how
they make conversations and meetings far more enjoyable as well as

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Diane Higgins

"Be your authentic self it's the path to success."-Psychologist Diane Higgins has authored numerous papers and has lectured extensively helping people find their authentic self, learn to be being purposeful and develop positive thinking. Diane is the author and/or editor of our Self Help Section.
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