Book Review of “The Quiver” by Douglas & Victoria Jacoby
By Sylvia Cochran – Parenting by the Book
By Douglas and Victoria Jacoby
Publisher: Illumination Publishers International
Publication date: 9/28/2005
Christian authors Douglas and Victoria Jacoby take the title of their book, “The Quiver,” from Psalm 127:3. Following this metaphor, they liken the act of parenting to readying arrows from a quiver for being shot into the world. With the parents being the archers, their careful bow work determines whether the quivers have a good sendoff.
Although the book is written by Christians for Christians, the lessons are true for any mother and father. The authors ask you to re-evaluate the quality of your home as a haven. Is it a place of strife and anger or a place of rest and refuge? Both moms and dads are challenged to take long and hard looks at their priorities and the resulting effects on their parenting behavior. Dispelling the myth that you can have it all, the authors warn that parenting requires both the mother and father to make (sometimes) sizable sacrifices in order to be the best parents possible.
The Quiver also tackles issues of character-building in children, the setup of family traditions and the creation of healthy value systems. Douglas and Victoria Jacoby offer suggestions for what these values may look like, but they pretty much leave the actual decision up to the reader. It is here that the versatility of the book and applicability to other faiths and belief systems come into play.
Parents who rely on the television and the public school system to present a suitable value system to their children will find this an eye-opening read. In spite of most anyone’s best intentions to the contrary, the busyness of life has a way of sneaking into parenting and making these solutions look like godsends. It takes someone outside the family to point this out. The authors take on this role and do it with success.
The Quiver is a book of constructive parenting criticism. Funny anecdotes and thought-provoking questions guide the reader along as she or he examines personal choices and parenting skills.
I highly recommend this book to any mom or dad.
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