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No matter it it’s a First Date  Or  Your 100th  – these date night ideas are fun and frugal and are sure to please. Visit local sites of interest, check […]

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couple date nightNo matter it it’s a First Date  Or  Your 100th  – these date night ideas are fun and frugal and are sure to please.

    1. Visit local sites of interest, check you cities web site, pretend to be a tourist, look at your state tourism website for ideas
    2. Get dressed up go out to dinner and dancing (a love tradition that still works).
    3. Go to the zoo, hold hands while strolling.
    4. Go to the book store, find favorite books to share with each other.
    5. Driving Ranges are great fun for golfer and those just “learning”
    6. Take drive in the country, stop at small local resturant, visit the shops in a small town.
    7. Tour a food factory or winery.
    8. Go for a walk in the park ( even in the snow), warm up over hot Chocolate.
    9. Go sledding or ice skating – roller blading, rock climbing, etc.
    10. Visit the museum in search of erotic art.
    11. Take a  short train trip ,  overnight is even better.
    12. Browse local art galleries, craft or pottery shops, stop for an expresso or tea
    13. People watch together at the mall, and/or mall walking is good exercise and fun too.
    14. Go swimming indoor at the local YMCA ( nice treat in the winter) or at a local beach in the summer.
    15. Chocolate syrup, bananas, strawberry syrup, ice cream – build a banana split eat while watching home videos.
    16. Have picnic in the park in the snow- cook hot dogs and smores, build a snowman and have snow ball fight.
    17. Play air hockey and video games together.
    18. Visit a botanical garden search for exotic plants.
    19. Go to a Carnival try to win each other prizes, hold hands while riding the Merry-Go-Round
    20. Old Favorite: rent a romnatic movie eat popcorn and candy. Make your partner a Movie Gift Basket

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Scoring Points in the Game of Love https://www.familiesonlinemagazine.com/game-points-2/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=game-points-2 https://www.familiesonlinemagazine.com/game-points-2/#respond Thu, 04 Jul 2019 05:30:00 +0000 https://www.familiesonlinemagazine.com/wordpfam/game-points-2/ Families Online Magazine -

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Scoring Points in the Game of Love

By Melodie Tucker

Men Can Score Points by:

Rub her feet after a hard day of shopping
Plan a special date night just for the two of you
Wash her car
Take the kids out on a Saturday afternoon
Put the toilet paper on the roll

Women Can Score Points by:

Really enjoy having sex with him
Overlook a mistake
Ask directly for his support
Cook a special dinner for (only) two
Say “Thank you” often and sincerely

Love and Football

Autumn is here! The lazy, hazy days of summer and vacations are just a fond memory. Now it’s time for the crazy days of settling back into the routine of work, school, homework, and juggling the family activities around and between everyone’s oh-so-hectic schedules.

Yet there are some trade-offs; the weather’s getting cooler, the leaves are turning red and gold in northern climes, it’s time to decorate for Halloween, and football season is back in full swing.

The Rules

Most everyone knows the basic rules of the game of football and how a player scores:

There’s 6 points for a touchdown, 3 points for a field goal, 2 points for a safety, 1 or 2 points for a conversion, etc.

So…think back to when you learned the rules and scoring of football. Perhaps you actually played the game and had a great coach who clearly outlined the ground rules, then firmly guided you down the path to the sweet success of winning.

Maybe your boyfriend was on the team, maybe you were a cheerleader or a band member, or maybe your parents loved the game and you learned it by osmosis as a tyke. I was lucky enough to have a high school sweetheart that was the statistician of our small-town team and he explained it all to me while we cheered on the sidelines (and stole kisses between plays).

When did you learn to score points in the game of love?

Although my young sweetheart and I did our best to play, we certainly didn’t know the rules and (not surprisingly) we didn’t make it to the altar.

Thanks to Mars Venus concepts, we can now all understand these facts:

  • Men and women score points differently in the game of love
  • When you have more points than your partner, then you’re losing the game–not winning
  • The way to win is to keep the score even

It’s natural to assume that our partners need what we need and experience love in the same ways. However, this isn’t usually the case and it causes untold turmoil in relationships because we don’t understand our differences or recognize how best to show love to our partner. Learning these skills can greatly improve your life together.

For instance, a man assigns lots of points for big things (like a paycheck, a new car, or an expensive vacation) but he gives only one point for little things. Thus he may believe that the best way to score many points with a woman is by doing something very big for her once in a while. A woman, however, scores points very differently by assigning one point for every gift of love she receives. Whether it’s a big gift or a little thing, it still only gets ONE point.

Doing lots of little things for a woman is the way to her heart. Often during courtship, a man will focus on doing these little things to win her favor, but then after a while, his focus shifts to other priorities. This is because men are more serial thinkers rather than multi-taskers like women. Sometimes men also stop doing little things if they feel taken for granted, so it’s also important to acknowledge and express appreciation for everything he does. Since men are results-oriented, this lets him know that he’s been successful in the task of making her happy.

Learning to directly ask for a man’s support is another encouraging way a woman can inoculate herself from ‘resentment flu’. Although he wants her to be happy, his nature is more focused and single-minded than hers. Women are generally much more aware and giving, and men don’t automatically give in return like women friends and family would. Women can minimize frustration and disappointment by helping men to redirect their energy and attention by simply asking.

 

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Ideas for DIY Wedding Favors https://www.familiesonlinemagazine.com/wedding-favors/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=wedding-favors Sun, 10 Mar 2019 02:17:55 +0000 https://www.familiesonlinemagazine.com/?p=21891 Families Online Magazine -

Seed Packets Perfect for Spring Wedding Seed Packets Items needed: Flower seed packets Ribbon Computer and Card Stock Tie each seed packet with a colored ribbon Attached a note of […]

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Seed Packets Perfect for Spring Wedding

Seed Packets

Items needed:

Flower seed packets

Ribbon

Computer and Card Stock

Tie each seed packet with a colored ribbon

Attached a note of thanks with your names and your wedding date.

Lottery Tickets

Items needed:

Lottery Tickets

Ribbon

Place Cards

The bride and groom buy 1 lottery ticket per guest.

The numbers are picked by a computer for the day of the wedding.

Each ticket is attached by a ribbon to the place cards.

rosebud wedding favors
Hershey’s Kiss Rosebud Favor

Materials needed:

Hershey’s Kisses
Double-sided tape (optional)
Colored cellophane
18-guage florist wire (cut in two equal lengths with wire cutters to get more roses per pack, or make long-stemmed rosebuds if you desire)
Green florist tape
Silk rose leaves (optional)
Ribbon (optional)

Tools needed:

Scissors (to cut the cellophane into squares)
Wire cutters (to cut the wires in half, or trim the rose stems after they are made)

Instructions:

1. Optional first step: Using a small square of the double-sided tape, stick two foil-wrapped Hershey’s Kisses together, bottom to bottom. (This isn’t strictly necessary, but it helps some folks handle the kisses while wrapping.)

Spoonful of Kisses

wedding favor spoonful of kisses

Items needed:

Hershey’s® Kisses
white plastic spoons
Tulle
ribbon

Computer & Card Stock

On each spoon place a red and a gold kiss.

Then wrap the spoon with Tulle and tie a bow with the ribbon.

Attach a note that says:

“A spoonful of kisses from the new Mr. and Mrs.!”

OR

“This has been a special day, each one of you helped make it that way. Please except these hugs and kisses from (Groom) and (Bride)! (Wedding Date)”

Spoonful of Cookies

Items needed:

 wooden sppon and cookie recipe favor

Wooden Spoons

Favorite Cookie Recipe

Cookie Cutters

Ribbon

Computer and Card Stock

Tie the ribbon around the handle of the wooden spoon.

Onto the ribbon thread a cookie cutter.

Print on the card stock your names and wedding date. On the other side print your favorite cookie recipe.

Make a small hole in one corner and then thread it onto the ribbon and tie a bow.

Charming, Smart and Funny Wedding Toasts

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Charming, Smart and Funny Wedding Toasts https://www.familiesonlinemagazine.com/wedding-toasts/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=wedding-toasts Thu, 14 Feb 2019 00:54:47 +0000 https://www.familiesonlinemagazine.com/?p=21519 Families Online Magazine -

Wedding Toasts – Free to Use List – Perfect Wedding Toast for Best Man, Maid of Honor, Brother, Sister, Father of the Bride and Friends May there always be work […]

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Wedding Toasts – Free to Use List – Perfect Wedding Toast for Best Man, Maid of Honor, Brother, Sister, Father of the Bride and Friends

wedding couple toastMay there always be work for your hands to do. May your purse always hold a coin or two. May the sun always shine warm on your windowpane. May a rainbow be certain to follow each rain. May the hand of a friend always be near you. And may God fill your heart with gladness to cheer you.

May you both live as long as you want, And never want as long as you live.

May your glasses be ever full. May the roof over your heads be always strong. And may you be in heaven half an hour before the devil knows you’re dead.

May you be poor in misfortune, Rich in blessings, Slow to make enemies, And quick to make friends.

But rich or poor, quick or slow, May you know nothing but happiness From this day forward.

As you slide down the bannister of life, May the splinters never point the wrong way.

May the joys of today Be those of tomorrow. The goblets of life Hold no dregs of sorrow.

May the luck of the Irish possess you. May the devil fly off with your worries. May God bless you forever and ever.

Here’s to you and yours And to mine and ours. And if mine and ours Ever come across to you and yours, I hope you and yours will do As much for mine and ours As mine and ours have done For you and yours!

May the most you wish for Be the least you get.

May the luck of the Irish Lead to happiest heights And the highway you travel Be lined with green lights.

May your troubles be less And your blessings be more. And nothing but happiness Come through your door.

May your thoughts be as glad as the shamrocks. May your hearts be as light as a song. May each day bring you bright happy hours, That stay with you all year long.

For each petal on the shamrock, This brings a wish your way Good health, good luck, and happiness For today and every day.

May your heart be warm and happy With the lilt of Irish laughter Every day in every way And forever and ever after.

May the blessings of light be upon you, Light without and light within. And in all your comings and goings, May you ever have a kindly greeting From them you meet along the road.

May brooks and trees and singing hills Join in the chorus, too. And every gentle wind that blows Send happiness to you.

Wherever you do and whatever you do, May the luck of the Irish be there with you.

Like the goodness of the five loaves and two fishes, Which God divided among the five thousand men, May the blessing of the King who so divided Be upon our share of this common meal.

May you have food and raiment, A soft pillow for your head, May you be forty years in heaven Before the devil knows you’re dead.

May the strength of three be in your journey.

May your right hand always Be stretched out in friendship And never in want.

May the roof above us never fall in. And may the friends gathered below it never fall out.

Here’s to a sweetheart, a bottle, and a friend. The first beautiful, the second full, the last ever faithful.

May the grass grow long on the road to hell for want of use.

May you have warm words on a cold evening, A full moon on a dark night, And the road downhill all the way to your door.

May there be a generation of children On the children of your children.

Here’s to health and prosperity, To you and all your posterity. And them that doesn’t drink with sincerity, That they may be damned for all eternity!

May I see you grey And combing your grandchildren’s hair.

May your neighbors respect you, Trouble neglect you, The angels protect you, And heaven accept you. May the Irish hills caress you. May her lakes and rivers bless you. May the luck of the Irish enfold you. May the blessings of Saint Patrick behold you.

May you see each other through many dark days, and make all the rest a little brighter.

Here’s a health to all those that we love, Here’s a health to all those that love us, Here’s a health to all those that love them that love those that love them that love those that love us.

Nine Things Not to Say in a Wedding Card

 

 

 

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Relationship Advice : The “Stonewalling” Man https://www.familiesonlinemagazine.com/stonewalling/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=stonewalling Fri, 25 Jan 2019 18:27:32 +0000 https://www.familiesonlinemagazine.com/?p=9206 Families Online Magazine -

By Marty Friedman Stone walls can be useful: They keep people away and protect those inside. When men construct them in marriage, however, they only cause anger, isolation and conflict. […]

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couple talking man husband stonewalling By Marty Friedman

Stone walls can be useful: They keep people away and protect those inside.

When men construct them in marriage, however, they only cause anger, isolation and conflict.

John Gottman, perhaps the most respected marital researcher in the world, underlines the importance of tearing down the walls: “A marriage succeeds to the extent that the husband can accept influence from his wife.

If a woman says, ‘Do you have to work Thursday night? My mother is coming that weekend, and I need your help getting ready,’ and her husband replies, ‘My plans are set, and I’m not changing them’.

This guy is in a shaky marriage.

A husband’s ability to be influenced by his wife (rather than vice-versa) is crucial because research shows women are already well practiced at accepting influence from men, and a true partnership only occurs when a husband can do so as well.” Gottman has found that stonewalling is one of the most detrimental factors in a marriage.

Here’s the typical cycle:

Women criticize men, and men become defensive and emotionally withdraw (stonewalling) from a criticism or conflict. Stonewalling is easy to recognize. Men cross their arms, roll their eyes, and adopt a fixed “stone-face”, sometimes turning away and speaking very little, if at all.

Women, of course, react poorly to stonewalling, becoming angry, hurt, and frustrated, which likely causes them to criticize even more. Researchers have determined that stonewalling puts tremendous physiological stress on the closed-down man’s heart and autonomic nervous system, and produces measurable negative stress reactions for his mate as well.

The reason:

Men stuff their emotions without physically withdrawing from the conflict, while women tune-in to the man’s emotions. Any way you look at stonewalling, both husband and wife suffer.

The key to eliminate stonewalling is to recognize what is going on underneath the surface. Simply put, stonewalling comes about when a woman criticizes and her man hears that he is somehow wrong, “bad”, or inadequate.

Women’s criticism affects men far more than women usually know. Men love to feel like they are doing great things, and pleasing their women. When they hear that they are failures (once again), you can expect men to withdraw and become defensive.

What can we do to eliminate or reduce communication stonewalling?

First, women must soften and tone down their criticism, reducing their contempt or blame. Women need to understand that their criticism sabotages and shames men and is counter-productive; men won’t change if they feel criticized and belittled.

They will, however, respond well to loving, personal requests for new actions. Men are much more likely to open up if they feel accepted and respected.

Second, men must recognize their own stonewalling behaviors and know that stonewalling is damaging to them and to the women they love.

Then, very simply, they have to begin to talk (not yell). It’s also helpful to admit one’s defensiveness. It’s even more helpful to listen, really listen with all your heart to one’s wife, because it’s for your own good. My message to men is: Open up the “stonewalls”. Let your wife in, and yourself out!

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Love Poems–Poetry About Love https://www.familiesonlinemagazine.com/love_poems/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=love_poems Fri, 03 Aug 2018 16:57:41 +0000 https://www.familiesonlinemagazine.com/?p=17977 Families Online Magazine -

Love Poems – Poetry   Love poems help bring romance, beauty and spirituality to relationships – We hope you enjoy our collection of love poems! Be sure to share these […]

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Love Poems – Poetry

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Love poems help bring romance, beauty and spirituality to relationships – We hope you enjoy our collection of love poems! Be sure to share these poems with the one you love.

Love Poem

SEASON OF LOVE
Crawford, Isabella Valancy (1850-1887)

WHEN Spring in sunny woodland lay,
And gilded buds were sparely set
On oak tree and the thorny may,
I gave my love a violet.
“O Love,” she said, and kissed my mouth
With one light, tender maiden kiss,
“There are no rich blooms in the south
So fair to me as this!”

When Summer reared her haughty crest,
We paused beneath the ruddy stars;
I placed a rose upon her breast,
Plucked from the modest casement bars.
“O Love,” she said, and kissed my mouth–
Heart, heart, rememb’rest thou the bliss?–
“In east or west, in north or south,
I know no rose but this!”

When Autumn raised the purple fruit
In clusters to his bearded lips,
I laid a heartsease on the lute
That sang beneath her finger-tips.
“O Love,” she said–and fair her eyes
Smiled thro’ the dusk upon the lea–
“No heartsease glows beneath the skies
But this thou givest me!”

When Winter wept at shaking doors,
And holly trimmed his ermine vest,
And wild winds maddened on the moors,
I laid a flower upon her breast.
“Dear Heart,” I whispered to the clay,
Which stilly smiled yet answered not,
“Bear thou to Heaven itself away
True love’s Forget-me-not!”

Poem is in the public domain..

Love Poem #2

LOVE IN A DAIRY
Crawford, Isabella Valancy (1850-1887)

OF all the spots for making love,
Give me a shady dairy,
With crimson tiles, and blushing smiles
From its presiding fairy;
The jolly sunbeams peeping in
Thro’ vine leaves all a-flutter,
Like greetings sent from Phoebus to
The Goddess of Fresh Butter.

The swallows twittering in the eaves,
The air of Summer blowing
Thro’ open door from where a score
Of tall rose-trees are growing,
A distant file of hollyhocks,
A rugged bush of tansy,
And nearer yet beside the steps
A gorgeous purple pansy;

Suggestive scents of new-mown hay,
From lowland meadows coming;
The distant ripple of a stream,
And drowsy sounds of humming
From able-bodied bees that bevy
About the morning-glory,
Or dawdle pleasantly around
The apple-blossoms hoary.

A rosy bloom pervades the spot;
And where the shadows darkle,
In glittering rows the shining pans
Show many a brilliant sparkle.
As snowy as my lady’s throat,
Or classic marble urn,
In central floor there proudly stands
The scourËd white-wood churn.

And she who reigns o’er churn and pan–
In truth, my friend, between us,
My dimpled Chloe is more fair
Than Milo’s famous Venus.
Mark, mark those eyes so arch and dark,
Those lips like crimson clover,
And ask yourself, as well you may,
How I could prove a rover.

Talk not to me of moonlit groves,
Of empress, belle, or fairy;
To me the fairest love of loves
Is Chloe of the Dairy.

Poem is in the public domain..

LATE LOVED–WELL LOVED

Crawford, Isabella Valancy (1850-1887)

HE stood beside her in the dawn–
And she his Dawn and she his Spring.
From her bright palm she fed her fawn,
Her swift eyes chased the swallow’s wing;
Her restless lips, smile-haunted, cast
Shrill silver calls to hound and dove;
Her young locks wove them with the blast.
To the flushed azure shrine above
The light boughs o’er her golden head
Tossed emerald arm and blossom palm;
The perfume of their prayer was spread
On the sweet wind in breath of balm.

“Dawn of my heart,” he said, “O child,
Knit they pure eyes a space with mine:
O crystal child eyes, undefiled,
Let fair love leap from mine to thine!”
“The Dawn is young,” she, smiling, said,
“Too young for Love’s dear joy and woe;
Too young to crown her careless head
With his ripe roses. Let me go
Unquestioned for a longer space;
Perchance when day is at the flood
In thy true palm I’ll gladly place
Love’s flower in its rounding bud.
But now the day is all too young,
The Dawn and I are playmates still.”
She slipped the blossomed boughs among,
He strode beyond the violet hill.

Again they stand–Imperial Noon
Lays her red sceptre on the earth–
Where golden hangings make a gloom,
And far-off lutes sing dreamy mirth.
The peacocks cry to lily cloud
From the white gloss of balustrade;
Tall urns of gold the gloom make proud;
Tall statues whitely strike the shade
And pulse in the dim quivering light
Until, most Galatea-wise,
Each looks from base of malachite
With mystic life in limbs and eyes.

Her robe–a golden wave that rose,
And burst, and clung as water clings
To her long curves–about her flows.
Each jewel on her white breast sings
Its silent song of sun and fire.
No wheeling swallows smite the skies
And upward draw the faint desire,
Weaving its mystery in her eyes.
In the white kisses of the lips
Of her long fingers lies a rose:
Snow-pale beside her curving lips,
Red by her snowy breast it glows.

“Noon of my soul,” said he, “behold
The day is ripe, the rose full blown!
Love stands in panoply of gold,
To Jovian height and strength now grown;
No infant he–a king he stands,
And pleads with thee for love again!”
“Ah, yes!” she said, “in all known lands
He kings it–lord of subtlest pain!
The moon is full, the rose of fair–
Too fair! ’tis neither white nor red!
I know the rose that love should wear
Must redden as the heart hath bled!
The moon is mellow bright, and I
Am happy in its perfect glow.
The slanting sun the rose may dye,
But for the sweet noon–let me go.”

She parted–shimmering thro’ the shade,
Bent the fair splendor of her head.
“Would the rich noon were past,” he said;
“Would the pale rose were flushed to red!”

Again. The noon is past and Night
Binds on his brow the blood-red Mars;
Down dusky vineyards dies the fight,
And blazing hamlets slay the stars.
Shriek the shrill shells; the heated throats
Of thundrous cannon burst; and high
Scales the fierce joy of bugle notes
The flame-dimmed splendours of the sky.
He, dying, lies beside his blade,
Clear smiling as a warrior blest
With victory smiles; thro’ sinister shade
Gleams the White Cross upon her breast.

“Soul of my soul, or is it night
Or is it dawn, or is it day?
I see no more nor dark nor light,
I hear no more the distant fray.”
“‘Tis Dawn,” she whispers, “Dawn at last,
Bright flushed with love’s immortal glow.
For me as thee all earth is past!
Late loved–well loved–now let us go!”

Poem is in the public domain..

Love Poem #3

Ephelia (fl.1679)

To one that asked me why I lov’d J.G.

Why do I Love? go, ask the Glorious Sun
Why every day it round the world doth Run:
Ask Thames and Tyber, why they ebb and flow:
Ask Damask Roses why in June they blow:
Ask Ice and Hail, the reason, why they’re Cold:
Decaying Beauties, why they will grow Old:
They’l tell thee, Fate, that every thing doth move,
Inforces them to this, and me to Love.
There is no Reason for our Love or Hate,
‘Tis irresistible, as Death or Fate;
‘Tis not his Face; I’ve sense enough to see,
That is not good, though doated on by me:
Nor is’t his Tongue, that has this Conquest won;
For that at least is equall’d by my own:
His carriage can to none obliging be,
‘Tis Rude, Affected, full of Vanity:
Strangely Ill natur’d, Peevish and Unkind,
Unconstant, False, to Jealousie inclin’d;
His Temper cou’d not have so great a Pow’r,
‘Tis mutable, and changes every hour:
Those vigorous Years that Women so Adore
Are past in him: he’s twice my age and more;
And yet I love this false, this worthless Man,
With all the Passion that a Woman can;
Doat on his Imperfections, though I spy
Nothing to Love; I Love, and know not why.
Sure ’tis Decreed in the dark Book of Fate,
That I shou’d Love, and he shou’d be ingrate.

Love Poem #4


Joy

I AM wild, I will sing to the trees,
I will sing to the stars in the sky,
I love, I am loved, he is mine,
Now at last I can die!

I have heart-fire and singing to give,
I can tread on the grass or the stars,
Now at last I can live!

Love Poem #5

How Do I Love Thee?
Elizabeth Barrett Browning

How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of Being and ideal Grace.
I love thee to the level of every day’s
Most quiet need, by sun and candlelight.
I love thee freely, as men strive for Right;
I love thee purely, as they turn from Praise.
I love thee with a passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood’s faith.
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints, — I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life! — and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death.


To My Dear And Loving Husband

Anne Bradstreet

If ever two were one, then surely we.
If ever man were lov’d by wife, then thee.
If ever wife was happy in a man,
Compare with me, ye women, if you can.
I prize thy love more than whole Mines of gold
Or all the riches that the East doth hold.
My love is such that Rivers cannot quench,
Nor ought but love from thee give recompetence.
Thy love is such I can no way repay.
The heavens reward thee manifold, I pray.
Then while we live, in love let’s so persever
That when we live no more, we may live ever.

Love Poem #6


She walks in Beauty

George Gordon Byron, Lord Byron

SHE walks in beauty, like the night
Of cloudless climes and starry skies;
And all that’s best of dark and bright
Meet in her aspect and her eyes:
Thus mellow’d to that tender light
Which heaven to gaudy day denies.

One shade the more, one ray the less,
Had half impair’d the nameless grace
Which waves in every raven tress,
Or softly lightens o’er her face;
Where thoughts serenely sweet express
How pure, how dear their dwelling-place.

And on that cheek, and o’er that brow,
So soft, so calm, yet eloquent,
The smiles that win, the tints that glow,
But tell of days in goodness spent,
A mind at peace with all below,
A heart whose love is innocent!

Love Poem #7


Believe Me, If All Those Endearing Young Charms

Thomas Moore

Believe me, if all those endearing young charms,
Which I gaze on so fondly today,
Were to change by tomorrow, and fleet in my arms,
Like fairy-gifts fading away,
Thou wouldst still be adored, as this moment thou art,
Let thy loveliness fade as it will,
And around the dear ruin each wish of my heart
Would entwine itself verdantly still.

It is not while beauty and youth are thine own,
And thy cheeks unprofaned by a tear
That the fervor and faith of a soul can be known,
To which time will but make thee more dear;
No, the heart that has truly loved never forgets,
But as truly loves on to the close,
As the sunflower turns on her god, when he sets,
The same look which she turned when he rose.

I carry your heart with me(I carry it in
my heart)I am never without it(anywhere
I go you go,my dear; and whatever is done
by only me is your doing,my darling)
I fear
no fate(for you are my fate,my sweet)i want
no world(for beautiful you are my world,my true)
and it’s you are whatever a moon has always meant
and whatever a sun will always sing is you

Here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life;which grows
higher than the soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that’s keeping the stars apart

I carry your heart(i carry it in my heart)

by e.e. cummings

Love Poem #8


I Love Thee by Eliza Acton

I LOVE THEE.
I LOVE thee, as I love the calm
Of sweet, star-lighted hours!
I love thee, as I love the balm
Of early jes’mine flow’rs.

I love thee, as I love the last
Rich smile of fading day,
Which lingereth, like the look we cast,
On rapture pass’d away.

I love thee as I love the tone
Of some soft-breathing flute
Whose soul is wak’d for me alone,
When all beside is mute.

I love thee as I love the first
Young violet of the spring;
Or the pale lily, April-nurs’d,
To scented blossoming.

I love thee, as I love the full,
Clear gushings of the song,
Which lonely–sad–and beautiful–
At night-fall floats along,

The hours of rest and dew;
When melody and moonlight meet
To blend their charm, and hue.

I love thee, as the glad bird loves
The freedom of its wing,
On which delightedly it moves
In wildest wandering.

I love thee as I love the swell,
And hush, of some low strain,
Which bringeth, by its gentle spell,
The past to life again.

Such is the feeling which from thee
Nought earthly can allure:
‘Tis ever link’d to all I see
Of gifted–high–and pure!

Love Poem #9


Sonnet 18 (Shall I compare thee …) by William Shakespeare

Shall I compare thee to a summer’s day?
Thou art more lovely and more temperate.
Rough winds do shake the darling buds of May,
And summer’s lease hath all too short a date.
Sometime too hot the eye of heaven shines,
And often is his gold complexion dimmed;
And every fair from fair sometime declines,
By chance, or nature’s changing course, untrimmed:
But thy eternal summer shall not fade
Nor lose possesion of that fair thou ow’st,
Nor shall Death brag thou wand’rest in his shade
When in eternal lines to time thou grow’st.
So long as men can breathe or eyes can see,
So long lives this, and this gives life to thee.

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Keeping your sex life sexy can seem like an uphill challenge sometimes, am I right? It’s easy when you first get together, especially at the beginning. Hell, at first when you’re at the first date stage it’s a veritable time bomb, all that unexplored sexual tension and delicious anticipation.

Then when you move from suggestive looks and light touches to something more intimate, it’s so new and exciting. You’re uncharted territory to each other. It’s so much fun finding out what the other looks like, how they react, what they enjoy and their signature moves.

It’s a hot and heavy time, that’s for sure.

But of course it can’t last. It’s like running. You can sprint for short distances, but for longer distances, you need to take a slower approach. You can keep up the intense new-relationship do-it-anywhere-you-can passion for a little while, but as your relationship settles into a routine, your sex life is at risk of becoming a bit routine, too.  

This is all totally normal, of course. That’s something I really want you to know. Men might like to boast about the hot thing they hooked up with or their latest conquest, but it’s natural for your sex life to ebb a bit when you eventually settle down. No one has the hot wild experimental early-relationship sex when they’ve been in a relationship for a while.

That in itself is ok. Being with someone long-term and building commitment is great. But naturally, you still want to enjoy your sex life and build rather than lose intimacy over the years. You want to keep your sex life sexy – and that’s totally understandable!

The Secret To Keeping Your Sex Life Sexy Is Actually Pretty Simple

We’ll go into more detail with some real practical tips you can use in a minute but for now, I want you to know that the secret to keeping your sex life sexy is actually pretty simple:

You keep working on closeness and intimacy.

Seriously. That’s it. It’s not reading the karma sutra, or Maxim, or even reading some relationship and sex guru’s website. It’s not buying cuffs and toys and whipped cream (though you can totally do all of those things …. just keep reading!). The secret to keeping your sex life sexy is simply intimacy.

Why Intimacy Matters So Much

Good sex in a long term relationship is based on mutual trust, intimacy, and closeness. Sure technique matters, but so does emotional closeness. Put it this way: If you’re not close with each other in your everyday life, it’s hard to be close in the bedroom.  

One of the reasons sex slides further down the menu as time goes by is because the rest of your life gets in the way of intimacy. When you’re both caught up with work stress, household to-dos, and later on family commitments and raising children, it’s all too easy to get too busy to connect – in the bedroom or outside of it.

If you want to keep your sex life sizzling, put your focus on staying intimate in every area of your life.

What are some things you can do to boost intimacy and keep your sex life’s flame burning? Try out these practical steps.

Resolve Your Issues

Every couple argues sometimes. It’s just part of being in a relationship. You won’t see eye to eye. She won’t like your friends, or you’ll get annoyed that she works such long hours. You won’t agree on the chores. Whatever happens, you need to resolve it.

Why? Your lady won’t be feeling sexy if you’ve just had a huge fight. If you have an issue, talk about it. Really talk. Not yelling or accusations or trying to one up each other. Just talk it through and find a resolution you’re both happy with.

Get into the habit of dealing with issues as they arise, and always remember you’re a team – look for solutions together.

Keep Dating

Part of what makes sex so much fun in the beginning is that you’re focusing on it. It’s a priority, even. You think about dressing nicely, or where you might go, and what you might do afterwards.

You don’t have to stop all of that just because you’re in a longer term relationship. Make time for dates. Set a regular date night, and stick to it.  

When date night rolls around, treat each other like you did at the beginning. Get dressed up. Go somewhere special, drink champagne, go out for a great meal. Buy your partner a surprise gift. You’ll rekindle the romance and intimacy of your early relationship – and you can keep rekindling when you get home and close the bedroom door.

Try New Things In And Out Of The Bedroom

Trying new things brings you closer together, and I don’t just mean sex. That’s fine too of course – like I said earlier, trying out some new techniques, positions, or toys is a fun way to add spice and keep your sex life fun. So go for it – talk to your partner about what they’d like to try, and have some fun!

Don’t neglect what you do together outside of the bedroom, though. Go somewhere new. Take a vacation. Take a class or try out a new hobby together. When you try new things you see new sides of each other, you have more to talk about, you feel closer – and your sex life benefits from all of those things.

Check In With Each Other

If you want ongoing physical intimacy, you need to build ongoing emotional intimacy too. It’s much easier to connect physically when you’re feeling close outside the bedroom too.

Check in with each other regularly. Find out what’s going on with each other. What’s happening with her at work? Does she know about the promotion you’re going for? Have you met a personal or fitness goal you want to share? All these little things add up and create intimacy between you.

Make time for each other every day. Grab a coffee in the morning, or pour some wine after dinner, and just talk. Your phones can wait for a minute.

Check in with each other about sex, too. Don’t be afraid to get frank and honest. Talk to each other about your sex life, and what you’d like to try, or what you’d like to be different. Talking is often the first step to greater intimacy and more sizzle in the bedroom.

Keep Your Bedroom For The Two Of You

It’s hard to feel sexy when your bedroom has turned into an office / den / storage area. If you find yourself bringing your laptop to bed to work, or you’ve got a pile of things in the corner waiting to be stored, you’re not doing yourselves any favors.

Make sex and intimacy an important part of your life by making your bedroom into a space for them. You don’t have to have a mirrored ceiling or fur bedspreads (you’re not Austin Powers), but make it a place you want to share, and have sex in.

Decorate it in a way you both like. Always use attractive bedlinens, and don’t take work worries, your office, or family stress to bed with you. Make your bedroom a haven for the two of you.

Set aside time in the bedroom that doesn’t involve sleep, phones, laptops, or TV. You don’t have to have sex (though I encourage that, obviously!) You can talk, give each other a massage, even listen to music together. Do whatever you can to create an intimate space for yourselves in the midst of your busy lives.

Play Games

Why am I suggesting you play games? Do I mean you should crack out the Monopoly board or grab your card deck? Not exactly – but not far off, either.

Try getting to know you games. Yes, the kind of thing you get at terrible office icebreakers. Hear me out here. Games that are designed to help you get to know each other are fantastic for building intimacy.

Try twenty questions next time you’re doing chores or driving somewhere. Ask your partner anything and everything you can think of – what are their dreams? What’s their favorite date you’ve shared? What makes them laugh the most? You’ll learn more about each other and your intimacy will grow.  

You can also try communication games, such as describing something without naming it and getting the other person to guess what it is – or even better, try to draw it! Yes it seems silly at first but you’ll have a laugh, and feel closer, too.

The secret to keeping your sex life sexy is about far more than buying her lingerie or trying out a new technique. It’s about building and maintaining intimacy in all areas of your life. Pay attention to each other. Be there for each other. Talk regularly, and make intimacy a priority. When you feel close outside the bedroom, it’s far easier to feel close inside it, too.

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Five Ways to Improve Holiday Visits with Your In-Laws https://www.familiesonlinemagazine.com/holiday-in0laws/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=holiday-in0laws Sun, 26 Nov 2017 12:22:00 +0000 https://www.familiesonlinemagazine.com/2015/11/28/holiday-in0laws/ Families Online Magazine -

By Jenna D. Barry – Family Relationships – Some people look forward to spending the holidays with family, while others would rather be run over by a reindeer. Some folks […]

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By Jenna D. Barry – Family Relationships –

Some people look forward to spending the holidays with family, while others would rather be run over by a reindeer.

Some folks anticipate a time of love and joy– while others can’t wait for this season of guilt and manipulation to be over.

It’s true that some in-laws are stereotyped unfairly, but others really are difficult to be around. Some mothers-in-law gossip about us, pry into our personal lives and manipulate us with guilt. Some fathers-in-law criticize us, offer unwanted advice, and meddle with the way we raise our kids.

Spending time with our spouse’s family is part of the marriage commitment, so we might as well learn to make the best of it.

Here are five ways to improve visits with your in-laws:

1. Get out of victim mode. You are an adult on equal standing with your in-laws, so don’t behave as though you are a child on an inferior level to them. Their needs and opinions do not outrank yours. Be confident and assertive (but not antagonistic, hateful or vengeful).

2. Unite as husband and wife to deal with difficult in-laws. Make decisions based on your needs as a couple, and then communicate and draw (reasonable) boundaries with Hubby’s folks as needed. If your partner struggles with making you a priority over his parents, then educate yourself on how to gain his loyalty.

3. Learn how to minimize destructive gossip. Avoid criticizing your husband’s parents in his presence because that will trigger his instinct to defend them. When necessary, vent your frustration to a counselor or support group instead of your family or friends. Apologize to your in-laws for gossiping about them, tell them you intend to stop doing so, and ask them to show you the same respect. Ask your spouse to refuse to listen if his folks start to talk behind your back.

4. Be prepared to handle difficult situations with your in-laws. Memorize some key phrases to use when they ask intrusive questions, interfere with the way you raise your kids, offer unwanted advice, manipulate you with guilt, etc. “That’s classified. I could tell you, but then I’d have to kill you.”
“Let’s talk about something else instead.”
“You’re entitled to your opinion, but I’ve made my decision.”
“I know you’re just trying to help, but this isn’t your decision.”

5. Learn to let your in-laws be upset. When you start behaving as a confident adult, they may act offended, cry, throw a tantrum, gossip about you, accuse you of being disrespectful, etc. They might test you to see how serious you are about setting boundaries (just like a toddler would), so it’s very important that you stand your ground (in a respectful manner) instead of arguing, apologizing, or giving excuses for your behavior.

When you start to behave in a new way, your in-laws will begin to treat you differently. And who knows? Someday you may actually look forward to the holiday season.

Jenna D. Barry is the author of “A Wife’s Guide to In-laws: How to Gain Your Husband’s Loyalty Without Killing His Parents.” To join her support group or find a counselor, please visit www.WifeGuide.org.

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Relationships- Couples: A Garden of Love Mars- Venus Relationship Advice for Couples https://www.familiesonlinemagazine.com/garden-of-love-2/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=garden-of-love-2 Wed, 23 Aug 2017 02:27:12 +0000 https://www.familiesonlinemagazine.com/wordpfam/garden-of-love-2/ Families Online Magazine -

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A Garden of Love

By Melodie Tucker

Love will be in the air this month, as the vernal equinox officially ushers in Spring on March 20 this year. Of course, Spring Fever won’t be far behind and many couples will be anxious to go play outside and plant a garden of beautiful flowers or delicious veggies (or both!).

A relationship is like a garden, too. It must be tended and nurtured like delicate plantings in order to survive and thrive. It needs to be watered and fed regularly, as well as weeded and protected from destructive weather. Consistent care and attention must be showered upon it, in order to keep the magic of love alive and growing throughout all the seasons.

In the Springtime of Love, everything is new and fresh. The seeds of passion sprout effortlessly and everything about our lovers and relationship seems perfect. It’s easy and fun to spend time together and it seems as though it will never end.As the Summer of Love heats up, though, disappointments may occur as you see your partner in a more realistic light.

Even though we’re from Venus and Mars, we’re all still human beings, with different beliefs and values, flawed and capable of making mistakes. Frustrations can build and it begins to take more time and work to keep the relationship blossoming. The weeds of arguments must be pulled and sometimes a stormy darkness colors the sky.

This is the time to learn and use good communication skills to work through differences and resolve conflicts in a positive way. During these times, Martians are challenged to apologize and Venusians are encouraged to forgive.When we successfully tame these rocky hilltops, we abundantly harvest the rewards in the Autumn of Love.

This is a golden time! It’s when we can experience a more mature, deep and abiding love as a result of all that hard work. It is the time to enjoy and bask in the golden light of triumph.Even still, we may enter a Winter of Love.

This is when it is cold and harsh and it may seem as though love has died. It can be barren of emotion and we cannot get what we need from our partner. A man may withdraw into his private “cave” and a woman may sink into the depths of her ‘well’.

This is not the time to seek or expect support from a partner. Instead, take the time to focus inward to discover what you want and what you can do to make yourself happy…knowing that Spring will soon come ’round again.Like a garden, every relationship goes through cyclical stages of joy and hard times. Preparation and realistic expectations are like the garden tools that ease the way.

Remember, also, that these seasons can happen within a span of a lifetime, a year or even a day.May you always grow in love…

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