Life is About
Choices and the Decisions We Make

Life is like a road. There are long and short roads; smooth and rocky
roads; crooked and straight paths. In our life many roads would come
our way as we journey through life. There are roads that lead to a life
of single blessedness, marriage, and religious vocation. There are also
roads that lead to fame and fortune on one hand, or isolation and
poverty on the other. There are roads to happiness as there are roads
to sadness, roads towards victory and jubilation, and roads leading to
defeat and disappointment.

Just like any road, there are corners, detours, and crossroads in life.
Perhaps the most perplexing road that you would encounter is a
crossroad. With four roads to choose from and with limited knowledge on
where they would go, which road will you take? What is the guarantee
that we would choose the right one along the way? Would you take any
road, or just stay where you are: in front of a crossroad?

There are no guarantees.

You do not really know where a road will lead you until you take it.
There are no guarantees. This is one of the most important things you
need to realize about life. Nobody said that choosing to do the right
thing all the time would always lead you to happiness. Loving someone
with all your heart does not guarantee that it would be returned.
Gaining fame and fortune does not guarantee happiness. Accepting a good
word from an influential superior to cut your trip short up the career
ladder is not always bad, especially if you are highly qualified and
competent.  There are too many possible outcomes, which your
really cannot control. The only thing you have power over is the
decisions that you will make, and how you would act and react to
different situations.

Wrong decisions are always at hindsight.

Had you known that you were making a wrong decision, would you have
gone along with it? Perhaps not, why would you choose a certain path
when you know it would get you lost? Why make a certain decision if you
knew from the very beginning that it is not the right one. It is only
after you have made a decision and reflected on it that you realize its
soundness. If the consequences or outcomes are good for you, then you
have decided correctly. Otherwise, your decision was wrong.

Take the risk: decide.

Since life offers no guarantee and you would never know that your
decision would be wrong until you have made it, then you might as well
take the risk and decide. It is definitely better than keeping yourself
in limbo. Although it is true that one wrong turn could get you lost,
it could also be that such a turn could be an opportunity for an
adventure, moreover open more roads. It is all a matter of perspective.
You have the choice between being a lost traveller or an accidental
tourist of life.  But take caution that you do not make
decisions haphazardly. Taking risks is not about being careless and
stupid. Here are some pointers that could help you choose the best
option in the face of life’s crossroads:

·    Get as many information as
you can about your situation.

You cannot find the confidence to decide when you know so little about
what you are faced with. Just like any news reporter, ask the 5
W’s: what, who, when, where, and why. What is the situation?
Who are the people involved? When did this happen? Where is this
leading? Why are you in this situation? These are just some of the
possible questions to ask to know more about your situation. This is
important. Oftentimes, the reason for indecision is the lack of
information about a situation.

·    Identify and create options.


What options do the situation give you? Sometimes the options are few,
but sometimes they are numerous. But what do you do when you think that
the situation offers no options? This is the time that you create your
own. Make your creative mind work. From the most simplistic to the most
complicated, entertain all ideas. Do not shoot anything down when an
idea comes to your head. Sometimes the most outrageous idea could prove
to be the right one in the end. You can ask a friend to help you
identify options and even make more options if you encounter some
difficulty, but make sure that you make the decision yourself in the

·    Weigh the pros and cons of
every option.

Assess each option by looking at the advantages and disadvantages it
offers you. In this way, you get more insights about the consequences
of such an option.

·    Trust yourself and make that

Now that you have assessed your options, it is now time to trust
yourself. Remember that there are no guarantees and wrong decisions are
always at hindsight.  So choose… decide…
believe that you are choosing the best option at this point in time.

Now that you have made a decision, be ready to face its consequences:
good and bad. It may take you to a place of promise or to a land of
problems. But the important thing is that you have chosen to live your
life instead of remaining a bystander or a passive audience to your own
life. Whether it is the right decision or not, only time can tell. But
do not regret it whatever the outcome. Instead, learn from it and
remember that you always have the chance to make better decisions in
the future.


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Diane Higgins

"Be your authentic self it's the path to success."-Psychologist Diane Higgins has authored numerous papers and has lectured extensively helping people find their authentic self, learn to be being purposeful and develop positive thinking. Diane is the author and/or editor of our Self Help Section.
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