How do you know?
The answer to this question is actually quite simple: does your child know you love her/him more than life itself? Does s/he understand that God loved her/him more than His own son?
The odds are that your child is aware of the love you have for her/him. The odds are also good that there are times when s/he views your love as conditional, i.e. when you must choose to go to work instead of staying for 15 more minutes to play another round of Candy Land.
Yet, how does your child view God's love for her/him? Does s/he feel that God has conditions attached to His love? Is s/he ever vigilant for God to be unavailable at some time or for some reason?
Let's make sure...
Acquaint your child with the fact that s/he is a treasured possession in God's mind. If He has a fridge, your child's (and your!) photo is on it. Allow your child to understand that when s/he does something right (even when nobody else sees it), God in heaven is pointing it out to an angel, quite possibly high-fifing her/him in the process! Allow your child to understand that while God put some house-rules in place, He does not demand slavish obedience for the sake of earning His love, but instead, seeks obedience as an expression of our love for Him.
Share the Scripture in Exodus 19:5-6 with your child, to help cement the idea of obeying God fully so as to be able to take her/his position in God's Kingdom of priests. Read Deuteronomy 7:6 together and help the child to understand that s/he is chosen, individually, by God. Her/his existence is no fluke, no accident, and did not occur by chance. Similarly, s/he having the opportunity to become a Christian is not a coincidence, but instead is God's plan! Help your child to understand how to respond to these Bible truths with heartfelt awe and gratitude.
So what does this have to do with the upcoming Thanksgiving holiday? I am glad you asked...
The hustle and bustle of the holidays has a way of keeping us, the Christian parents, running from store to store, talking on the phone incessantly, cooking until the cows come home, and causing us to put our children in front of the TV set in an attempt to keep them out of our way. Is this truly the best way to inspire expressions of gratitude in our children?
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What is the Christian parent to do? Well, here are some practical suggestions for you, the Christian parent:
In closing, do not allow the Thanksgiving holiday to be a time of business that chokes out your (and your child's) expressions of gratitude to the Lord our God!
Take your child(ren) with you when you shop for the Thanksgiving Day turkey. While this may seem odd to some, make it a big production. Let the child(ren) touch the various frozen birds, contemplate their sizes, and talk about the people who will be joining you for the feast. This is a great opportunity to forge a new Thanksgiving tradition, while also helping your child to think about other people and their importance to your family.
Your child may be well-acquainted with the custom of writing Christmas cards. Is s/he as well acquainted with writing "Thank You" notes? If not, begin by writing a simple card to God. Hang it on the fridge, so the child(ren) may add to it at any time. This is a great tradition to start this Thanksgiving. By next Thanksgiving next year, the card should be full, and a new one can be started. Allow the card to be displayed at your church, or perhaps frame it and hang it on your wall, or maybe you want to burn it (reminiscent of the Scripture which likens our prayers as fragrant offerings that come before God). The possibilities are endless.
Young children love to color. Find some coloring pages that embody the spirit of Thanksgiving. For example, the Corry Alliance Church offers some printable coloring pages. Find one that emphasizes Psalm 103:2, and another which deals with Psalms 100:4-5 . (By the way, there are many opportunities to use spiritually focused coloring pages...for example, when you go to a restaurant -- the ones that hand you a coloring page and 1 or more crayons -- bring your own coloring pages!)
Buying decorations? Stop standing in line while cajoling your restless child(ren). S/he does not like standing in a crushing crowd at the cash register any more than you! Instead of buying your Thanksgiving decorations, make them yourself. There is the Thanksgiving Turkey Decoration which will look great on any table, or the Edible Turkey Decoration involving Oreo cookies; if you have older children, take a peek at the Waste Not Pilgrim, a craft idea which offers a plethora of decoration ideas.
While you are sitting around the table making your crafts, why not go around taking turns talking about all the things for which you are grateful? Need a boost on how to go about it?
Another great idea for young children is to explore the many ways of saying "grace". Visit Annie's Thanksgiving Grace Page for some beautiful examples of such prayers.
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