Keeping the Home Fires Burning

coupleWith the days of a stay-at-home mom being busy and somewhat chaotic, you find yourself exhausted by the end of the day.

Once the kids are finally in bed, all you want to do is crawl into bed yourself for some much-needed sleep.

But however tempting it may be, you still need to spend some time alone with your spouse.

It’s easy to focus so much attention on your children that time with your spouse is limited. But your children are going to grow up, move out, and have their own lives. If you let your relationship with your spouse slid now, eventually there won’t be one left when the children are gone.

Our children will be in there 20’s when my husband and I are in our early 50’s, which means we have many years alone together. If you each go about your days and business alone without connecting sometime now, how can you expect to spend the next 40 years happily married?

Remember, it’s not just up to you to keep the home fires burning; your spouse needs to make an effort too! Being together in the same room at night just doesn’t cut it! Simply watching a movie and sharing a bowl of popcorn allows you to be close to one another, and then once the popcorn’s done, maybe more interesting things will come into play (but I’ll leave that to your imagination).

Here are some simple ways to be intimate in your home:

  • Snuggle together on the couch.
  • Share a late night meal and conversation together after the kids have gone to bed.
  • Play a board game or cards. As silly as this may sound, it allows for conversation, laughter and relaxation.
  • Take your evening coffee to the deck or porch and talk about your day, or other matters that are important to you.
  • Cuddle in bed and talk quietly before going to sleep or moving onto other things (again, I’ll leave that to your imagination).

There are many things you can do as a couple, either at home, or out somewhere. But always remember that the best way to keep your relationship happy and healthy is to continually communicate your love and need of each other. Those small moments go a long way.

So stop telling yourself you’ll spend time together later, make the effort now because it’s too easy to fall into the routine of going about your days separately.

 

 

Melissa Ingold

About the Author


Melissa Ingold is a wife, and stay-at-home mom to 2 children. She lives the life of a SAHM day in and day out, and her experience has enabled her to write articles on the issues that interest women in their roles as wives and mothers. She aims to touch their hearts and warm their souls through her insightful articles. She has several freelance writing projects on the go and hopes to eventually freelance fulltime.

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