Domestic Violence Survivor Offers Strategies for a Safe Escape
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Statistics show that the most dangerous time in a domestic violence victim’s life is the moment she tries to leave a violent relationship. However, there are many things a woman can do prior to leaving the relationship that will help ensure she makes a safe escape.
Statistics show that women aren’t wrong to feel insecure when choosing to leave violent relationships. According to A Woman’s Place, an organization that provides assistance and support for survivors of domestic violence, the most dangerous time for a domestic violence victim is when she decides to leave an abusive relationship.
Susan Pines, a survivor of intimate partner violence and author of What a Nice Guy, believes the key to a safe escape is early preparation. In What a Nice Guy, Pines encourages women to thoroughly consider the following three parts to a successful safety plan:
Prepare a safety kit which includes clothing, toiletries, medications, keys, money, copies of important documents,address book, a pay as you go mobile phone with phonenumber the abuser doesn’t know. Keep this kit near an exit route or with a trustworthy person.
Contact a Shelter
Make arrangements to stay in a safe place, such as a shelter, hotel, or the house of someone the abuser does not know. Erase any e-mail or information on a computer that may help the abuser discover the location of the safe place. Understand that the abuser may be able to track credit card or cell phone bills to find this location.
Create a strategy for how to leave, especially if the situation escalates. Try to leave when the abuser is not home. Take the safety kit and leave quickly. Call a hotline, agency, or local police for more help.
Pines also stresses the importance of being discreet while planning a safe escape, saying, “If your partner suspects you are leaving, he will most likely become more violent. So it is important to prepare carefully and secretly. This is not the time to break the news to him gently in the hope it will make him less upset.”
Source: KIDSRIGHTS, a publisher of materials for victims of abuse and violence.