Christian Parenting – Is Your Child Basing His Faith On Achievements?
From the Christian Parenting Corner
Is Your Child Basing His Faith On Achievements?
It is said that the road to hell is paved with good intentions. This makes me wonder why anyone would have good intentions which then fail to pan out and cause a walking away from the faith, or perhaps a drifting away. The answer is simple: Christians are far too often basing their faith and Christian self-image, confidence, and self-esteem on their accomplishments in the faith rather than the faith itself.
As a Christian parent, I cannot help but wonder what I am teaching to my child. Am I encouraging the creation of a checklist?
- Read Bible
- Give money – Two checks if the giving is done in church and later at a different venue.
- Volunteer – A big check if the volunteering is done for the church, a smaller check if it is done for the local humane society.
- Evangelize – Check minus if the name of the church is not mentioned, the location of the service is forgotten, and no phone number is given. No check if the person says no.
It is tempting to live by such a checklist and derive an inane sense of self worth as the checks are lining up. It is in the slump of the faith, during the trying times, the times of testing, that checkmarks will disappear. Reading the Bible becomes a chore in the depth of depression, and praying after the death of a loved one is hard. Volunteering with numerous small kids may be next to impossible, and evangelizing for the introvert is akin to root canals.
Thus, if I as a Christian parent encourage my child to follow the checklist mentality — do I not condemn him to a life of fearful mediocrity or numbers-driven excellence that lacks the heart and soul of the faith? Indeed I do, and so will you.
Counteracting this kind of destructive mindset may be done by following the advice found in Romans 7:14-25a. Leave behind the vestiges of accomplishment driven faith and numbers based religiosity and simply return to the faith of belief in God, first and last and always.
Teach children not to base their faith on the things they accomplished in the past, but instead on the potential for greatness that is ahead!
At the same time, it is worthwhile to have a Christian to do list which, much like the bucket list of the movie, may serve as a loosely knit roadmap to a Christian’s life and dreams. Just, don’t place your faith in it and teach your children not to base their faith into the Christian to do list either.
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