Life is Hello – Life is Goodbye – Building Relationships
Dr. Howard Peiper – Path to a Better Life
There are many people. More than we can comprehend. They are everywhere we go and we will meet some of them.
Some of these people will naturally establish themselves as an apparent fixture in our lives, and change how life looks to us. This is called a relationship. If the person stays around for months or years, our relationship with them might begin to feel permanent.
It’s not. Relationships are conditions, not things. They all have to end at some point. But they will leave something behind for us to keep.
There are different kinds, different styles of rapport between us and them: polite, uneasy, romantic, platonic, and confusing. We tend to slot them into distinct types – friendships, courtships, marriages, and business partnerships –but they are all fundamentally the same thing. Two people overlap, experience each other’s thoughts and ideas, absorb each other’s values and learn from each other’s stories. Personalities leak into other people when those people get close enough.
This happens all the time, and it is always temporary. The overlap comes to an end and the parties diverge and drift away. It could be after 72 hours of traveling together, or after a summer internship working together, or after 60 years of marriage. If nothing else ends it, death will. This means that life is essentially a solo trip. We will have this endless parade of visitors, though, which is nice. Characters we could not have imagined will appear, stay for a minute or maybe a few months or maybe many years, and then leave us to our trip.
Welcome visitors, as a general rule. Their purpose is to aid the solo traveler in figuring out how to enjoy this world. Most people will enter and exit our lives without us noticing much. Some of them will make a big splash though. Some visitors will be decidedly special. We will know.
The most valuable experience we can have is an overlap with this kind of person. The defining characteristic of one of these people is that they make it impossible for us to remain the same person by the time they make their exit. Each one of these people, by the time our paths diverge, will have changed us in a way that is evident to others who know us. We probably will not recognize quite what is happening at the time. We will feel something though. The feeling of windows opening.
However this particular overlap goes, whatever experience it’s made of, ecstatic one or awful one – a few months or years down the road, we are different. We are better. Something that was hard is now easy, something that was daunting is now familiar, and something we were once skeptical about, we now love.
We will be left with some beliefs we didn’t have before. We will value certain things more than we did and other things less than we did. Maybe we have never thought about it, but we have had this happen to us, several times by now. It will happen again and again. We have no idea who is on their way to meet us. They have no idea either.
At any given moment, any time, any day of our existence, we can look at our whole life as a vast collection of experiences and recognize that all of it adds up exactly to who we have become today. Who we became depended – to a degree we may never appreciate – on who we happened to run into while we were out in the world doing our thing. We could have been so many different people.
All relationships are temporary. They change form and texture as time passes, and they eventually go. If it’s been a special one, with a lover, an important teacher, a parent, its absence can be a heavy one. Almost tangible. We can feel the presence of their absence. The person is gone, an empty desk, an unused pillow, an open doorway with no one standing in it. But we are still there, and we are better than we were.
Howard, nominated for a Pulitzer Prize, has written numerous books on nutrition and natural health including 12 best sellers.
Create a Miracle with Hexagonal Water
New Hope for Serious Diseases
The A.D.D. & A.D.H. Diet
Zeolite Nature's Heavy Metal Detoxifier
Viral Immunity with Humic Acid
The Secrets of Staying Young
Nutritional Leverage For Great Golf
All Natural High Performance Diet
Natural Solutions For Sexual Enhancement
Super Nutrition for Dogs and Cats
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Dr. Peiper is co-host of the award winning Television show, Partners in Healing. They feature guest in the alternative healing field including such names as Harvey Diamond, Dr. John Upledger, Dr. Bernard Jensen, Gary Null and Dr. Marshall Mandell.