Genuine Happiness Comes from

Life isn’t the sweetest candy. Sometimes, when I feel like
the world is just too heavy, I look around and find people who
continued to live fascinating and wonderful lives. And then thoughts
come popping into my mind like bubbles from nowhere –
“How did their life become so adorably sweet? How come they
still can manage to laugh and play around despite a busy stressful
life?”  Then I pause and observed for
awhile… I figured out that maybe, they start to work on a
place called ‘self’.

So, how does one become genuinely happy? Step 1 is to love yourself.

My theology professor once said that “loving means
accepting.”  To love oneself means to accept that
you are not a perfect being, but behind the imperfections must lie a
great ounce of courage to be able to discover ways on how to improve
your repertoire to recover from our mistakes.

Genuine happiness also pertains to contentment. When you are contented
with the job you have, the way you look, with your family, your
friends, the place you live in, your car, and all the things you now
have – truly, you know the answer to the question
“how to be genuinely happy.”

When we discover a small start somewhere from within, that small start
will eventually lead to something else, and to something else. But if
you keep questioning life lit it has never done you any good, you will
never be able to find genuine happiness.

I believe that life is about finding out about right and wrong, trying
and failing, wining and losing. These are things that happen as often
as you inhale and exhale. Failure, in a person’s life has
become as abundant and necessary as air. But this should not hinder us
from becoming happy.

How to be genuinely happy in spite all these? I tell you…
every time you exert effort to improve the quality of life and your
being, whether it is cleaning up your room, helping a friend, taking
care of your sick dog, fail on board exams and trying again, life gives
you equivalent points for that.

Imagine life as a big score board like those which are used in the
NFLs. Every time you take a step forward, you make scoring points.
Wouldn’t it be nice to look at that board at the end of each
game and think to yourself “Whew! I got a point today.
I’m glad I gave it a shot.”, instead of looking at
it all blank and murmur “Geez, I didn’t even hit a
score today. I wish I had the guts to try out. We could have
won!” and then walk away.

Genuine happiness isn’t about driving the hottest Formula 1
car, nor getting the employee of the year award, earning the highest
13th month pay, or beating the sales quota. Sometimes, the most sought
after prizes in life doesn’t always go to the fastest, the
strongest, the bravest or not even the best. So, how do you become
genuinely happy?  Every one has his own definition of
‘happiness’. Happiness for a writer may mean
launching as much best selling books as possible. Happiness for a
basketball rookie may mean getting the rookie of the year award.
Happiness for a beggar may mean a lot of money. Happiness for a
business man may mean success. So, really now, how do we become
genuinely happy? Simple. You don’t have to have the best
things in this world. Its about doing and making the best out of every
single thing. When you find yourself smiling at your own mistake and
telling your self “Oh, I’ll do better next
time”, you carry with you a flame of strong will power to
persevere that may spread out like a brush fire. You possess a
willingness to stand up again and try – that will make you a
genuinely happy person.

When you learn to accept yourself and your own faults. You pass step 1
in the project “how to become genuinely happy”.For
as long as you know how to accept others, you will also be accepted.
For as long as you love and know how to love, you will receive love ten
folds back.

Again, throw me that same question “how to become genuinely
happy?”. I’ll refer you to a friend of mine who
strongly quoted- “Most of us know that laughter is the best
medicine to life’s aches and pain. But most of us
don’t know that the best kind of laughter is laughter over
self. Coz then you don’t just become happy… you
become free.”

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Diane Higgins

"Be your authentic self it's the path to success."-Psychologist Diane Higgins has authored numerous papers and has lectured extensively helping people find their authentic self, learn to be being purposeful and develop positive thinking. Diane is the author and/or editor of our Self Help Section.
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