Smile Notes: Good Stock, And I’m Not Talking About Soup by Sharon Scott, LPC LMFT
‘Good Stock’ And I’m Not Talking About Soup’
By Sharon Scott, LPC, LMFT
I was conducting a workshop for fourth graders on character education. We were talking about how our ancestry tells a lot about our appearance. I was making the point that we are all different on the outside and to be accepting because on the inside we’re all alike’we want to be accepted.
I was sharing that my ancestors came from Scotland and Ireland and that’s one of the reasons I have some freckles on my arms and a hint of red in my hair. I then asked one boy where his ancestors came from. He replied, “Amarillo, Texas!” Sometimes it’s hard to give life lessons to little ones without laughing!
This makes me think of the day that I was visiting my parents. Daddy was outside doing some yard work and I was inside talking to Mother. I asked her a question about Daddy’s favorite relative, Uncle Irvin. Mother didn’t know the answer which seemed odd to me as it was a simple question.
I asked her why she didn’t know and she said, “I never met Uncle Irvin.” Mind you I was an adult now and had assumed my whole life that she knew him as she and Daddy both told tales about him. When I asked her why she had never met him, she said that Uncle Irvin had died a week before she had met my father. I wondered how she could have known so much about him. She said, “I knew him through your father’s eyes.”
Mother and Daddy were married for 57 1/2 years when Daddy died in 2004. They intimately knew each other’s family history including stories, jokes, bad times, achievements, companion animals, careers, etc. Having detailed ‘love maps,’ as this is often called, is important for a successful marriage. I think it’s equally as important for children to know so that they know from where they came’good ‘stock’ as we would say here in Texas. This knowledge can build self-esteem and pride in oneself.
So begin telling your children the family stories so that one day when they’re in a workshop and the presenter asks where their ancestors are from, they will know more than Chicago or Tampa or San Diego or Omaha or ”.
Copyright 2017, Sharon Scott. No reproduction without written permission from author.
The guide for parents/educators on how to peer-proof children and teens is Peer Pressure Reversal: An Adult Guide to Developing a Responsible Child, 2nd Ed.
Her popular book for teens, How to Say No and Keep Your Friends, 2nd Ed., empowers kids to stand out,not just fit in!
A follow-up book for teens, When to Say Yes! And Make More Friends, shows adolescents how to select and meet quality friends and, in general, feel good for doing and being good.
Sharon also has a charming series of five books for elementary-age children each teaching an important living skill and "co-authored" with her savvy cocker spaniel Nicholas who makes the learning fun.Their book on managing elementary-age peer pressure is titled Too Smart for Trouble.
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