Power through the people

Have you come across a person who is so naturally friendly that when
you put him inside a room of strangers, he’ll be friends with almost
everyone in no time? We call such a people-person, someone unbelievably
nice and charismatic that he can charm anyone into doing anything.

A socially-empowered person achieves so much greatness, basically
because of the people that catapult him to success. He earns the trust
and all-out support of the people, whom he had helped before. He never
runs out of help. He can do anything with the plethora of people behind
him. All because he knows he maximizes his social potential!

See, if you know your social skills and you make use of them, you will
reach self-empowerment. Self-empowerment is making a general overhaul
in your life and turning yourself into a happier and more successful
person.If you can be one of those people-persons, then I can’t see any
reason why you will not succeed. You just have to know how to start.

1. Be genuine.

Hypocrisy will just bring you all the way down. Be genuinely nice and
interested to people. Once they perceive that you are Mr. Hypocrite
with selfish intentions, you might as well say goodbye to

2. Be the greatest listener that you can be.

To earn the love and trust of the people, listen to their problems and
sympathize with them. Do not just hear them out, listen to them with
your heart. Make eye contact when the person talks to you. Listen as if
every word matters, and it does. Brownie points when they find out that
there is a confidante in you.

3. Laugh out loud.

I do not mean that you force yourself to laugh for every joke cracked
by someone, albeit you do not find it funny at all.This means finding
humor in things and not being too darn serious. A person oozing with an
awesome sense of humor attracts crowds and eventually, attracts success.

4. Don’t forget yourself.

In the process of fluttering around like a social butterfly, you might
forget yourself, allowing everyone to push you over. Remember, love and
value yourself before anyone else. If you deem yourself respectable and
worthy of affection, people will flock to you and not trample on you.

5. Do random acts of kindness.

You don’t have to do a John Rockefeller and blow your savings to
charity. Little acts of kindness matters the most, and this can be as
simple as giving someone a surprise you-take-care card or helping an
elderly cross the street. When we were kindergarten students, kindness
was taught to us and greatly practiced. Now is the time to revive the
good deeds and this time, let them stay for good.

6. Contact your old friends.

Sad how some friendships are destined to goodbye, but thanks to
technology, you can do something about it. Relive the good old days by
flipping your yearbook and look for the great people whom you want to
communicate with again. Adding these old friends to your roster of
support peers will surely make you feel good all over.

7. Develop your personality.

Are you grouchy, grumpy and generally morose? Whoa, you can’t go
through life with those. Get rid of the bad traits and habits that
perpetually hamper your growth. And really, who wants a grouchy friend

8. Be confident.

Be able to stride to the other corner of the room and introduce
yourself to people with that winning smile of yours. Just remember: be
confident, not arrogant.

9. Practice control.

When angry, don’t snap at anyone. Never throw a tantrum. Stay calm and
collected. Be adult enough to take control of situation and transform
your anger into something more productive and passive. As soon as
people think your anger goes to volcanic proportions easily, they will
find it hard to come to you.

10. Keep nurturing your relationships.

Your relationship with your family, friends and significant others is
too precious that you must not neglect it whatever happens. Go out and
have fun with them. Do things together. Happiness will never fly from
your side as long as the people who matter the most are close to you.

In the end, using people for self-empowerment means becoming a better
and more lovable person. It’s a win-win situation: the people know they
can turn to you anytime and vice versa.

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Diane Higgins

"Be your authentic self it's the path to success."-Psychologist Diane Higgins has authored numerous papers and has lectured extensively helping people find their authentic self, learn to be being purposeful and develop positive thinking. Diane is the author and/or editor of our Self Help Section.
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