Can We Get More Impersonal? Helping Children Learn Interpersonal Skills in a Texting World
Can We Get More Impersonal?
By Sharon Scott, LPC, LMFT
Listen to a Podcast with Sharon Scott
I’ve been bothered for a long time about how communication continues to become less and less personal. Home offices… e-mailing… texting… allows us to work and even entertain from the privacy of our home.
We don’t have to go anywhere! As mature adults, hopefully we don’t delude ourselves into thinking this is a fabulous way of communicating. Efficient, perhaps; but encouraging camaraderie, no.
However, children and teens are learning poor communication styles –little eye contact, misunderstandings, abbreviated spelling (if you can call it that?), the ease of gossiping or bullying and “talking” without true emotion.
I recently read an opinion column in The Dallas Morning News written by Caitlin Lake, a high school junior. She had such wonderful insight on this issue saying that texting is keeping her generation from making eye contact and is the least personal way possible to talk.
She sees her friends texting in movies theatres, in the bathroom, in church and often during tests at school as one student texts the answers to another. And she worries about her girlfriends who ‘meet’ someone texting and then go on a date with them.
She says, “Parents, I implore you to please know exactly who your teenagers are going on dates with and exactly how they met.” She asks teachers to take up cell phones before every test as she reports, “Cheating is such a rampant problem in my high school that honest students are finding it impossible to compete with dishonest ones.”
Out of the mouth of babes…
Copyright 2018, Sharon Scott. No reproduction without written permission from author.
The guide for parents/educators on how to peer-proof children and teens is Peer Pressure Reversal: An Adult Guide to Developing a Responsible Child, 2nd Ed.
Her popular book for teens, How to Say No and Keep Your Friends, 2nd Ed., empowers kids to stand out,not just fit in!
A follow-up book for teens, When to Say Yes! And Make More Friends, shows adolescents how to select and meet quality friends and, in general, feel good for doing and being good.
Sharon also has a charming series of five books for elementary-age children each teaching an important living skill and "co-authored" with her savvy cocker spaniel Nicholas who makes the learning fun.Their book on managing elementary-age peer pressure is titled Too Smart for Trouble.
Latest posts by Sharon Scott (see all)
- Encouraging Friendship for Your Children - February 2, 2019
- Smile Notes: Be Yourself! by Sharon Scott, LPC LMFT - November 1, 2018
- Smile Notes: Never Late the Importance of Role Models for Children by Sharon Scott, LPC LMFT - November 1, 2018