What is Love? An Inside Job
Loving ourself isn’t just about feeling good in our body, nor being our self and accepting our self. Loving ourself isn’t just a feeling. Loving ourself is a commitment. It is respecting ourself enough to do what’s best for us, even if it might not seem to satisfy our first impulses.
Loving ourself is saying and showing up. It is forcing ourself to get out of the house when we realize we have been wallowing in self-pity or depression. Loving ourself is accepting that invitation from our close friend whom we have been blowing off because we’ve been hiding from the world.
Loving ourself is doing our work first, before checking our e-mail, instead of playing games or watching TV, so we won’t be up depriving ourself of sleep at the very last second before a deadline. It is sleeping at a time early enough that we will be well-rested tomorrow morning, every single night. Waking up early enough to give ourself time to have a moment in the morning, to have time to dress ourself in clothes that make us feel confident, and nourish our body with a breakfast filled with food we love.
Loving ourself is realizing that drowning in a box of cookies is not the answer to an empty feeling in our heart. Loving ourself is breathing deeply and asking ourself first why we feel this way, and being there, being present for ourself. It is calling a friend or taking a walk instead of indulging in an addiction to go numb. Realizing that binge drinking, eating, or anything else will and does hurt us, no matter what comfort it may seem to bring for a moment.
Loving ourself is refusing to use words to bring us down, refusing to deny our own awesomeness and refusing to insult or otherwise demean us. It is accepting the compliments, using kind words to others and us. Recognizing our own unique nature, be happy with it, and recognizing the unique nature of others and be happy for them.
Love ourself has nothing to do with jealousy or envy. It is being grateful for what we have, knowing that more of the good stuff is to come, and knowing that every individual has their own struggles and successes. Loving ourself is refusing to let our self-worth be dictated by any external comments or numbers. Realizing that failing exams or losing jobs does not make us a failure. Choose to focus on the thoughts and feelings that make us feel good and refuse to get caught up in thinking about things that bring us down. Daydream about what excites us and visualize our reality.
Loving ourself is prioritizing our health, making sure we always have healthy foods available, doing what it takes for us to be comfortable, happy, and healthy in our body. It is eating only what we are excited to eat, not settling for something just because it is there, eating when our body needs sustenance, and paying attention to what we put into our precious body. Honor our hunger.
It is being our own best friend, our own lover and our own family when we find our self during a period of time without any external assistance. Loving ourself is enjoying time alone, doing something that makes our heart sing. It is honoring our commitments to others, and ourself and forgiving others and us. Letting go of yesterday’s seeming mistakes and seeing them as lessons. Grow, change and learn.
Loving ourself is refusing to settle for less, saying no to what is unimportant to us and letting go of friends or family who don’t treat us well. It is sprinting our way out of any relationship that makes us feel threatened, unsafe, lowered, unworthy, abusive, controlled,.
Loving ourself is knowing that we are worthy, worthy of living passionately, worthy of enjoying our life, worthy of focusing what excites us, worthy of letting go of anything that holds us down and worthy of doing whatever is necessary for us to be healthy and thriving, worthy of the very best.
“There is no difficulty that enough love will not conquer. There is no disease that enough love will not heal. No door that enough love will not open. No gulf that enough love will not bridge. No wall that enough love will not throw down. And no sin that enough love will not redeem. It makes no difference how deeply seated may be the trouble. How hopeless the outlook, muddled the tangle or great the mistake. A sufficient realization of love will dissolve it all. And if we could love enough we would be the happiest and most powerful person in the world.” Emmet Fox
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