2 Habitual Parenting Mistakes and Their (Spiritual) Fixes
By Sylvia Cochran – Christian Parenting
Parenting is fraught with missteps, oopsies and outright mistakes. More often than not we the parents recognize a parenting error as soon as it is made. Fixing it is generally a bit tougher.
Some parents decide to maintain a (false) sense of authority by not admitting to the mistake or apologizing; from a spiritual point of view, this is an untenable position.
In fact, there are two habitual parenting mistakes that require an immediate apology and fix. Do you know what they are?
1. Inconsistent enforcement of consequences
Children thrive on consistency and parents maintain their position of authority by issuing predictable edicts and punishments. When mom or dad go back and forth about the enforcement of rules or the duration of consequences, the kids not only lose respect for the parent but may be led into temptation to manipulate their elders.
For example, you tell your child that the video game is off limits for the rest of the week due to a serious infraction; on day three of the consequence you waffle because junior is whiny, you are busy and he really has been good all day. While there is ample room for mercy in parenting, take to heart part of what Matthew 5:37 teaches: Simply let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No’.
Tip: Why do you have a hard time sticking to a consequence you set? Maybe some of the consequences are unrealistic or overly harsh? Get some
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