Parenting by the Book
by Sylvia Cochran
This is the inaugural column of “Parenting by the Book which will feature spiritual resources, but also every-day books to help you become a better parent. Following the old adage that knowledge is power, this column seeks to empower you to make the right parenting decisions, especially in those tough to digest moments. What should you do when your five year shrieks that she hates you? How should you deal with a six year old who is hitting? When it spanking no longer an option? Do time-outs really work? How will you be able to nurture a child so he can stand on his own two feet but remember your lessons on smoking?
Many great parents have put pen to paper to encourage others out there to remain steadfast in their parenting. Here are the fruits of their labors, and some personal insights why I believe these books are worth reading. If you have review suggestions, please do not hesitate to contact me via email. As always, please put Families Online Magazine in the subject line!
Book review: Raising Kids for Greatness
The first writer I would like to introduce to you is Dr. Tim Kimmel. In Christian circles he has a reputation for parenting insights that precedes him. He is a staunch advocate of family unity, earned a Masters of Theology and married his high school sweetie in 1972. He is father to four children, and has also entered the realm of grandparenthood. His passion for the family and especially for training parents to raise happy, spiritual kids is undeniable and leaps off every page in his books.
I first became acquainted with Dr. Kimmel through his book/> which has become a bedrock publication for anyone who understands that attendance at Sunday school will neither turn out Christians, nor will spiked hair and pierced ears herald in the age of the Antichrist.
Parents are understandably afraid of what will happen when their children are old enough to cut the apron strings, and many are concerned that in a world filled with sex, drugs and violence it is only to easy for the kids to be led astray.
Dr. Kimmel minces no words but assures parents that their every fear is not only justified but reasonable. As a matter of fact, he seeks to shake awake parents who believe their children are inoculated against wayward influences by attendance at Christian school, attendance at church, and participation at the local church youth camp. He cites the sad statistic that nearly 90 percent of evangelical children leave the church after they leave high school and the confines of mom and dad's radar.
Dr. Kimmel also offers hope. He is not content with pointing out the flaws, but instead offers ingenious insights and suggestions, knowing that with time, parental effort, diligence, and parental submission to Godly advice, a rebellious child will be able to safely return to God. If you are a Christian parent and you do not read this book, you will do yourself and your child(ren) a disservice. Even if your child is not (yet) rebellious, do not be lulled into doing nothing to prepare for the eventualities Satan may choose to put in your way!
This time around I had the opportunity to once again meet up with Dr. Kimmel and take a look at his book. Much like the other book, Dr. Kimmel brings parents face to face with the misconceptions they have about personal greatness, and the heavy price their children end up paying for a parental obsession with it. Sure, we all want our children to succeed in every way, but do we go overboard in demanding stellar grades, highest paying careers, and well connected spouses to the exclusion of spiritual principles?
Can a child have her cake and eat it, too? Or will she have to trade worldly success for spiritual greatness? Dr. Kimmel not only answers this question, but poses are few that parents will have to chew on: for example, he wants to know if you are pointing your child into the right direction.
Are you giving his life a meaning, or are you content with just a purpose? Are you selling your kids short in order to have them quickly achieve something in the eyes of the world, only to have them sell out in the eyes of Him to whom we must all give an account?
This is a wonderful book and should be on the required reading list of any parent, whether Christian or not, since it will go a long way to challenge you to look differently at the markers that define success in today's society, and instead look at success in a new, much deeper fashion.
More Christian Parenting Books
Raising Kids for Greatness
A Positive Plan For Creating More Fun, Less Whining
How To Really Parent Your Teenager
Sylvia Cochran - Christian Parenting Corner and Common Sense Parenting
Sylvia is a seasoned writer, born and raised in Germany. Having been exposed to a variety of religions and traditions due to travel and study, Sylvia has been a student of the Bible for more than ten years, and has for the last four years taught in small groups about Biblical principles, practical Christianity, Christian parenting, as well as the spiritual use of money. Sylvia also provides Christian Parenting Courses at Suite 101.