PAUSE? Are You Kidding Me? Help for the Overscheduled Family
In the book, The Power of Pause, by Terry Hershey he explores the concept of maybe we would live more by doing less. Subtracting from our lives, rather than adding to it. As a marriage and family therapist, I would definitely agree with his concept. –
Most families report eating on the go (fast food at that!). And, once the kids are teens, rarely having fun family activities (except the summer vacation). The kids are too busy with their social activities, homework and texting to be involved with the family.
How did we get so out of balanced? What did we do before the Internet? How did we communicate before cell phones? If you feel that your head is barely above water, then I would suggest this week that you just pause,for a minimum of 20 minutes one day. Just be! Sing if you want, or nap, or just breathe in and out and take in the sights and sounds around you. Be in the moment,live every second of it.
We’ve got to refuel, rejuvenate, refresh,and giving ourselves permission to pause is the first step. If you can begin this process, then next month, I’ll give you suggestions to try to rear kids who will be healthier about not overwhelming themselves with stuff and things to do.
Copyright © 2011, Sharon Scott. No reproduction without written permission of author.
P.S. Please see my other column Recipe for Disaster about child-rearing.
The guide for parents/educators on how to peer-proof children and teens is Peer Pressure Reversal: An Adult Guide to Developing a Responsible Child, 2nd Ed.
Her popular book for teens, How to Say No and Keep Your Friends, 2nd Ed., empowers kids to stand out,not just fit in!
A follow-up book for teens, When to Say Yes! And Make More Friends, shows adolescents how to select and meet quality friends and, in general, feel good for doing and being good.
Sharon also has a charming series of five books for elementary-age children each teaching an important living skill and "co-authored" with her savvy cocker spaniel Nicholas who makes the learning fun.Their book on managing elementary-age peer pressure is titled Too Smart for Trouble.