(A True Peer Pressure Story)
By Sharon Scott, LPC, LMFT
As many of you know, I've written numerous books for children, teens, parents and educators on the subject of negative peer pressure (Editor's Note: Go to HrdPress
When these boys entered middle school, the other kids seemed to really notice Sam's antics and thought him very immature. He would sometimes act goofy and Jake would tell Sam to stop it, but he seemed unable to do so. Jake was now being teased for being friends with Sam. In the school cafeteria, Jake wanted to sit with his new friends. But the other kids didn't want Sam at the table.
As Jake continued to try to get Sam to cut it out and leave him alone, Sam got his feelings hurt and started to call Jake names. Jake felt caught in the middle of this situation and would sometimes go home very sad and not even want to go to school the next day.
Task: Have your child discuss the pros and cons of Jake keeping Sam as a friend. On the one hand, these boys have a long friendship. On the other hand, Jake is concerned that he can't fit in with others with Sam hanging around. What would you do?
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Sharon is the author of eight award-winning books including four on the topic of peer pressure.
The guide for parents/educators on how to peer-proof children and teens is Peer Pressure Reversal: An Adult Guide to Developing a Responsible Child, 2nd Ed.
|Her popular book for teens, How to Say No and Keep Your Friends, 2nd Ed., empowers kids to stand out'not just fit in!/> A follow-up book for teens, When to Say Yes! And Make More Friends, shows adolescents how to select and meet quality friends and, in general, feel good for doing and being good.
|Sharon also has a charming series of five books for elementary-age children each teaching an important living skill and 'co-authored' with her savvy Cocker Spaniel Nicholas who makes the learning fun. Their book on managing elementary-age peer pressure is titled
Peer Pressure Experienced by Teens, Adolescents and School-age Children. Parenting Advice.