Planning Perfect Play Dates
1. Prepare in advance. Set the time and environment up for a win-win situation. Work around nap times, limit play dates to two hours and childproof the area you’ll be using.
You sigh and think “Well if we just skip the plan in advance part we’ll be fine” and move onto choosing an area to play in. You decide on the living room and make like a human vacuum dashing through the area ensuring anything you don’t want knocked over is out of sight. Great you think. Next.
2. Make sharing easier. Take away any special toys your child doesn’t like to share.
You approach Henry and in a calm voice say “You know Kerri is coming over so let’s put Tiny Bear away so he doesn’t get lost while we are playing with friends.” Surprisingly he hands him over and you tuck teddy into Henry’s crib. Check. Moving on
3. Set up stations. Blocks, coloring, arts and crafts and games like Hullabaloo or Simon Says keeps everyone moving in the same direction.
“That’s a great idea” you say aloud and get the Legos out from the closet, placing them in one corner of the room. You get out Memory and place it in another. Then you pull some of the kids favorite books off the shelf and lay them along the coffee table. Perfect.
4. Serve a snack. Even crackers and milk will provide a quiet time if things get tense.
Looks like I can have that cocoa! You seem pleased with this idea you had on your own. Then you laugh and realize the author meant a snack for the kids. You look in the pantry, pull out the animal crackers and get some juice boxes out of the fridge. I’m doing great and three minutes to spare, you think to yourself. Ding dong.
The neighbors arrive and take off their winter gear, ready to rush into the land of fun. You think about going over your house rules and aren’t sure if it’s appropriate. You glance at your favorite book one more time.
5. Lay out the ground rules. We play in this room, we keep our hands to ourselves and we use our indoor voices. Setting up your expectations ahead of time gives kids something to live up to.
Proudly you ask the kids to gather around. “I am excited you are all going to play, now let’s remember to stay in the living room, use our indoor voices and keep our hands to ourselves.”
The kids seem thrilled with their options but you see two of them squabbling over a book. The last thing you read quickens to your mind:
6. Look but don’t touch. Let the children play and learn on their own. Unless it gets physical or emotionally harmful, allowing kids to learn to work it out on their own is the best way to go.
You sit back anxiously and sure enough, the kids worked it out. One held the book, one flipped pages.
The kids are playing in peace and you are your neighbor are chatting up a storm of your own. Then you remember. Hot Cocoa for two.
Michelle is an active member of the nanny community. She is the founder and president of Boston Area Nannies, Inc., a local non-profit educational organization and has served on the International Nanny Association Board of Directors.
She is called on by the media as a nanny and parenting expert and has been affectionately dubbed America's Nanny. Michelle has appeared on television and has been featured in print.
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