Enjoy Your Life: Change Your
Point of View

“Two men look out through the same bars: One sees the mud, and one sees
the stars.”- Frederick Langbridge, A Cluster of Quiet Thoughts

If you’ve placed second in a writing contest, will you jump
for joy and push for better results the next time or will you be
discouraged and find an excuse not to join again?

In life, you are always filled with choices. You may opt to have a
pessimist’s view and live a self-defeated life or you may
decide to take the optimist’s route and take a challenging
and fulfilling life.

So why nurture an optimist’s point of view? And why now?

Well, optimism has been linked to positive mood and good morale; to
academic, athletic, military, occupational and political success; to
popularity; to good health and even to long life and freedom from
trauma.

On the other hand, the rates of depression and pessimism have never
been higher. It affects middle-aged adults the same way it hits younger
people. The mean age of onset has gone from 30 to 15. It is no longer a
middle-aged housewife’s disorder but also a
teen-ager’s disorder’ as well.

Here’s how optimists are in action and researches that back
up why it really pays to be an optimist:

Optimists expect the best

The defining characteristic of pessimists is that they tend to believe
bad events, which will last a long time and undermine everything they
do, are their own fault.

The truth is optimists are confronted with the same hard knocks of this
world. What differs is the way they explain their
misfortune—it’s the opposite way. They tend to believe
defeat is just a temporary setback, that its causes are confined to
this one case.

Optimists tend to focus on and plan for the ‘problem’ at hand. They use
‘positive reinterpretation.’ In other words, they most likely
reinterpret a negative experience in a way that helps them learn and
grow. Such people are unfazed by bad situation, they perceive it is a
challenge and try harder.

They won’t say “things will never get
better,” “If I failed once, it will happen
again” and “If I experience misfortune in one part
of my life, then it will happen in my whole life.”

Positive expectancies of optimists also predict better reactions during
transitions to new environments, sudden tragedies and unlikely turn of
events. If they fall, they will stand up. They see opportunities
instead of obstacles.

People respond positively to optimists

Optimists are proactive and less dependent on others for their
happiness. They find no need to control or manipulate people. They
usually draw people towards them. Their optimistic view of the world
can be contagious and influence those they are with.

Optimism seems a socially desirable trait in all communities. Those who
share optimism are generally accepted while those who spread gloom,
panic and hysteria are treated unfavorably.

In life, these people often win elections; get voted most congenial and
sought for advice.

When the going gets tough, optimists get tougher

Optimists typically maintain higher levels of subjective well-being
during times of stress than do people who are less optimistic. In
contrast, pessimists are likely to react to stressful events by denying
that they exist or by avoiding dealing with problems. Pessimists are
more likely to quit trying when difficulties arise.

They persevere. They just don’t give up easily, they are also
known for their patience. Inching their way a step closer to that goal
or elusive dream.

Optimists are healthier and live longer

Medical research has justified that simple pleasures and a positive
outlook can cause a measurable increase in the body’s ability to fight
disease.

Optimists’ health is unusually good. They age well, much
freer than most people from the usual physical ills of middle age. And
they get to outlive those prone to negative thoughts.

So why not be an optimist today? And think positively towards a more
fulfilled life.

Why not look forward to success in all your endeavors? Why not be
resilient? Like everybody else you are bound to hit lows sometimes but
don’t just stay there. Carry yourself out of the mud and
improve your chances of getting back on the right track. And why not
inspire others to remove their dark-colored glasses and see life in the
bright side?

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Diane Higgins

Diane Higgins

"Be your authentic self it's the path to success."-Psychologist Diane Higgins has authored numerous papers and has lectured extensively helping people find their authentic self, learn to be being purposeful and develop positive thinking. Diane is the author and/or editor of our Self Help Section.
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