Creating Effective and Efficient

Relationships of all kinds are often perceived as very delicate things,
that require extra effort to maintain. However, a relationship can also
be something that can provide security and can also be long lasting
despite many trials.

Building an effective and lasting relationships is a necessity for
several reasons. For example in a group or organization, the well being
of the people depends on how efficient and effective that group or
organization works.

The group or organization is also dependent on how the members work
well with the management.

An ineffective group or organization can really be very
frustrating.  An effective group or organization can also ask
so much on their members, that sometimes the members would be having no
life outside the walls of the area where they work or sacrifice the
other aspects of their life just to meet deadlines. For an organization
or group with this kind of scenario, relationships can be stressed or
suffer from breakdown.


People or other entities who depend on these groups or organization
also suffer.


Society is defined as a web of relationships, which requires all
parties to work and contribute their share in order to
achieve  a common goal. Having a relationship that is good,
where cooperation and respect are manifested, can make society work
better. In this way each member works for the good of the whole and
towards achieving a common goal. This can only be attained with
effective and efficient relationships.


Understanding the other parties’ feeling and position creates an
effective and efficient relationship. The easiest method to understand
what is important to another party is to ask them what they want and
listen to what they have to say. When the other party realizes this,
they would feel the importance given to them

Effective and efficient relationships require parties to openly express
their feelings and positions on all matters pertinent on the
relationship. Assuming that the other party understands our needs and
give us when we need it without asking for it is not a good practice.

Respect is the key to relationship. In order to create a more effective
relationship, parties should treat each other with respect. 
We can show respect just by listening to the other party and by trying
sincerely to understand how they function. You can also show respect to
other parties by confirming that they are doing everything they can.

The opposite of respect is quick forming of judgements based on
unfounded facts and prejudice.


Respect is the very foundation for a great relationship. This also
means respecting yourself and respecting others.

Another key area in forming an effective relationship is to tackle
differences of the other party directly. Differences between parties or
people are quite interesting. For example in a conversation where each
party listens to the other party, you may observe that each is having
two different perspectives.

Work towards a win-win solution for both parties.

This can be done when at least one party acknowledges that the
relationship is important. That party would then exert more time,
effort and energy to understand the other party’s needs and deal with
it to get it out of the way. Should they fail, it is comforting for
that party to know that they tried.

Effectively listening and no pre-judging. This is important if parties
are to understand each other.

Informal discussions are conducive for parties. They bring out issues
and concerns comfortably. They also feel more relaxed making them think
more clearly.

Developing an atmosphere where the other party can express their
feelings when they need to.

When parties fail to express whatever is on their mind or their
feelings, it can get in the way of building an effective relationship.

Parties should be aware that certain things exist naturally but should
be controlled in any dealings in any relationship.  Human
nature is one. Some of these things found in a relationship also
include a history of stereotyping or mistrust, blaming the other person
or party for a strained relationship, excluding the other party’s
feelings when focusing on a task, no clear and defined objectives,
roles and expectations of each party in a relationship is also unclear.

Relationships are important to anyone, addressing issues and problems
right away is a must to further improve the relationship. As they say
‘No man is an Island’.

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Diane Higgins

"Be your authentic self it's the path to success."-Psychologist Diane Higgins has authored numerous papers and has lectured extensively helping people find their authentic self, learn to be being purposeful and develop positive thinking. Diane is the author and/or editor of our Self Help Section. HigginsSelf HelpSelf HelpParenting Advice| Family Fun Activities for Kids