Revisiting Childhood Messages
By Dr. Howard Peiper – Path to a Better Life
Every one of us exits childhood with our own unique cocktail of patterns, programming, beliefs, habits, preferences, and expectations.
Some of these ingrained pieces of our psyche are positive, such as saying please and thank you, brushing our teeth every day, and, hopefully, believing that education is important. However, we also enter adulthood with our share of wounds and neurotic tendencies. At a more subtle level, we are also programmed with certain beliefs and fears that limit our lives – unconscious negative and/or mixed messages. These messages do not display obvious symptoms. We rarely have cause to question their existence. Our innocent, undiscerning child minds are easy victims for these persistent messages.
They are very contagious and often undetectable. They are “passed down” to us by the attitudes and beliefs of others, including our parents, family members, friends, the media, teachers, and society in general. As long as these negative and/or mixed messages remain unconscious (we are not aware of them) the conditioned fears associated with them can be dangerous because they can hold us back from achieving our fullest potential. For example, if we have heard all of our lives that money is the root of all evil, then we may unconsciously create situations that limit our financial success.
Below is a list of common unconscious negative and/or mixed messages that we are often exposed to while growing up. They are so “normal” that we rarely question their validity or consider how they affect our belief systems or cause unconscious fears. Of course, to some degree there is truth behind many of them, and those who exposed us to them often had good intentions. Consider which of the unconscious messages below may be part of the legacy of our childhood upbringing. If we can see how these beliefs are limiting our lives, consider revisiting them.
“Money is the root of all evil.”
Good intention: money does not bring happiness and can cause corruption.
Conditioned fear: negative association with having money: it turns us into a bad person.
Potential limits: unconsciously avoiding or sabotaging financial success to avoid the
“negative qualities” we believe we will develop if we have money.
“Finish your plate. There are starving children in the world.”
Good intention: don’t be wasteful with food and have compassion for others.
Conditioned fear: food scarcity or guilt for having more resources than others.
Potential limits: overeating and health problems or holding ourselves back to avoid feeling guilty over having more opportunity than others.
“Money doesn’t grow on trees.”
Good intention: be intelligent in regards to how we spend our money.
Conditioned fear: money scarcity, feeling that there is not enough and money is hard to acquire.
Potential limits: not believing we can have what we want if it involves having money and therefore not going for it.
“Don’t burn our bridges”
Good intention: keep good relationships with people who may one day be a resource for us.
Conditioned fear: apprehension to do what we know is right for us if we feel it will make someone disapprove of or reject us.
Potential limits: not making a change or taking an opportunity when it comes out of fear of disappointing, offending, or otherwise burning a bridge.
“No pain no gain”
Good intention: the reward is worth the struggle.
Conditioned fear: the belief that in order to be successful one must suffer.
Potential limits: choosing not to make changes or go for what we want because we feel it will be difficult or painful, holding ourselves back from success, or we may choose to self sabotage the process to make it harder than necessary.
“No one ever said life is fair”
Good intention: sometimes things seen unfair, but it is okay.
Conditioned fear: there is no hope for us feeling at ease or happy in life.
Potential limits: we may hold ourselves back, feeling like it will not pay off, or we may develop feelings of hopelessness.
“The early bird catches the worm”
Good intention: be early and take initiative.
Conditioned fear: believing that we are not the first one to take action, we have missed our opportunity; fear of competition.
Potential limits: we may give up or not go for opportunities if we are not the first to jump on board, such as initiating a new business idea, or resisting taking chances due to fear of competition.
“Speak only when spoken to”
Good intention: be polite and don’t interrupt.
Conditioned fear: apprehension to approach others or to speak up.
Potential limits: avoidance of activities or circumstances requiring us to be in authority, lead, demand what we want, stand up for what we believe, or speak in front of others.
“Children are meant to be seen and not heard”
Good intention: really, there are no good intentions here.
Conditioned fear: feelings of being unworthy and low self-esteem.
Potential limits: avoidance of being in the spotlight or anything that would make us feel important or valued.
As we can see, some of the most common phrases we have been hearing since childhood are not as innocent or accurate as we may think. They are so palatable that we are all guilty of passing these messages along to unsuspecting victims, even to our children. Becoming aware of our unconscious programming and evaluating the validity and value of our ingrained beliefs systems is the first step toward transforming our life.
Dr.Howard Peiper, N.D., nominated for a Pulitzer Prize, has written several popular books on nutrition and natural health. His website is: www.walkthetalkproductions.com.
Howard, nominated for a Pulitzer Prize, has written numerous books on nutrition and natural health including 12 best sellers.
Create a Miracle with Hexagonal Water
New Hope for Serious Diseases
The A.D.D. & A.D.H. Diet
Zeolite Nature's Heavy Metal Detoxifier
Viral Immunity with Humic Acid
The Secrets of Staying Young
Nutritional Leverage For Great Golf
All Natural High Performance Diet
Natural Solutions For Sexual Enhancement
Super Nutrition for Dogs and Cats
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Dr. Peiper is co-host of the award winning Television show, Partners in Healing. They feature guest in the alternative healing field including such names as Harvey Diamond, Dr. John Upledger, Dr. Bernard Jensen, Gary Null and Dr. Marshall Mandell.