When we look at a certain object, a painting for example – we
won’t be able to appreciate what’s in it, what is
painted and what else goes with it  if the painting is just an
inch away from our face. But if we try to take it a little further,
we’ll have a clearer vision of the whole art work.

We reach a point in our life when we are ready for change and a whole
bunch of information that will help us unlock our self improvement
power. Until then, something can be staring us right under our nose but
we don’t see it.  The only time we think of
unlocking our self improvement power is when everything got worst. Take
the frog principle for example –

Try placing Frog A in a pot of boiling water. What happens? He twerps!
He jumps off! Why? Because he is not able to tolerate sudden change in
his environment – the water’s temperature. Then try
Frog B: place him in a luke warm water, then turn the gas stove on.
Wait til the water reaches a certain boiling point. Frog B then thinks
“Ooh… it’s a bit warm in here”.

People are like Frog B in general. Today, Anna thinks Carl hates her.
Tomorrow, Patrick walks up to her and told her he hates her. Anna stays
the same and doesn’t mind her what her friends says. The next
day, she learned that Kim and John also abhors her. Anna
doesn’t realize at once the importance and the need for self
improvement until the entire community hates her.

We learn our lessons when we experience pain. We finally see the
warning signs and signals when things get rough and tough. When do we
realize that we need to change diets? When none of our jeans and shirts
would fit us. When do we stop eating candies and chocolates? When all
of our teeth has fallen off. When do we realize that we need to stop
smoking? When our lungs have gone bad. When do we pray and ask for
help? When we realize that we’re gonna die tomorrow.

The only time most of us ever learn about unlocking our self
improvement power is when the whole world is crashing and falling
apart. We think and feel this way because it is not easy to change. But
change becomes more painful when we ignore it.

Change will happen, like it or hate it. At one point or another, we are
all going to experience different turning points in our life
– and we are all going to eventually unlock our self
improvement power not because the world says so, not because our
friends are nagging us, but because we realized its for our own good.

Happy people don’t just accept change, they embrace it. Now,
you don’t have to feel a tremendous heat before realizing the
need for self improvement.  Unlocking your self improvement
power means unlocking yourself up in the cage of thought that
“its just the way I am”. It is such a poor excuse
for people who fear and resist change. Most of us program our minds
like computers.

Jen repeatedly tells everyone that she doesn’t have the guts
to be around groups of people. She heard her mom, her dad, her sister,
her teacher tell the same things about her to other people. Over the
years, that is what Jen believes. She believes its her story. And what
happens? Every time a great crowd would troop over their house, in
school, and in the community – she tends to step back, shy
away and lock herself up in a room. Jen didn’t only believed
in her story, she lived it.

Jen has to realize that she is not what she is in her story. Instead of
having her story post around her face for everyone to remember, she has
to have the spirit and show people “I am an important person
and I should be treated accordingly!”

Self improvement may not be everybody’s favorite word, but if
we look at things in a different point of view, we might have greater
chances of enjoying the whole process instead of counting the days
until we are fully improved. Three sessions in a week at the gym would
result to a healthier life, reading books instead of looking at porns
will shape up a more profound knowledge, going out with friends and
peers will help you take a step back from work and unwind. 
And just when you are enjoying the whole process of unlocking your self
improvement power, you’ll realize that you’re
beginning to take things light and become happy.

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Diane Higgins

"Be your authentic self it's the path to success."-Psychologist Diane Higgins has authored numerous papers and has lectured extensively helping people find their authentic self, learn to be being purposeful and develop positive thinking. Diane is the author and/or editor of our Self Help Section.
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