By Doctor Howard Peiper

People whose personalities and actions tend to push our buttons the most are generally our greatest teachers. These individuals serve as our mirror and teach us what needs to be revealed about ourselves. Seeing what we don’t like in others help us look deeper inside ourselves for similar traits and challenges that need healing, balancing, or changing.

 

 When someone is first asked to understand that an irritating person is merely offering him a mirror image of himself, he will strongly resist this idea. Rather, he will argue that he is not the angry, violent, depressed, guilt-ridden, critical, or complainer person that his mirror/teacher is reflecting. The problem lies with the other person, right? Wrong, not even by a long shot. It would convenient if we could always place the blame on the other person, but this is not always so easy. First we ask ourselves “If the problem truly is the other fellow’s and not my own, then why does being around that person affect me so negatively?”

Our Mirrors May Reflect:

1.       Our Shortcomings

Because character flaws, weaknesses, etc. are more easily seen in others than in ourselves, our mirrors help us to be able to see our shortcomings more clearly.

2.      Magnified Pictures

Mirroring is often magnified to enhance getting our attention. What we see is enhanced to look larger than life so we won’t overlook the message, making sure we get the BIG PICTURE. For example: although we are not even close to being the overbearing critical type of character that our mirror is reflecting, seeing this behavior in our mirror will help us see how our nit-picking habits are not serving us.

3.     Repressed Emotions

Our mirrors will often reflect emotions that we have comfortably repressed over time. Seeing someone else display unleashed similar emotions may very well touch on our stuffed feelings to help bring them to the surface for balancing/healing.

 Relationship Mirrors

Our family, friends, and coworkers don’t recognize the mirroring roles they are acting out for us at a conscious level. Nonetheless, it is no coincidence that we are conjoined within our family units and our relationships to learn from one another. Our family members (parents, children, siblings) often play major roles of mirroring for us. This is because it is more difficult for us to run and hide from them. Besides, avoiding our mirrors is non productive because sooner or later, a bigger mirror will appear to present, perhaps in a different way, exactly what we are trying to avoid.

Repeating Mirror Reflections

Ultimately, by avoiding a particular person we hope that our lives will be less stressful, but it doesn’t necessarily work out that way. Why do we suppose some people tend to attract partners with similar issues (alcoholics, abusers, cheaters, etc.) repeatedly? If we succeed at getting away from a person without learning what we need to know from the relationship we can expect to meet up with another person who will very soon reflect the same image upon us. Now a second opportunity will surface for us to take inventory of our issues. And if not then, a third and so forth until we get the BIG picture and begin the process of change/acceptance.

Shifting Our Perspectives

When we are confronted with a personality that we find bothersome or uncomfortable to be around, it can be a challenge to comprend that it is offering us a grand opportunity to learn about ourselves. By shifting our perspectives and attempting to understand what our teachers are showing us in their mirrors reflection we can begin to take baby steps toward accepting or healing those wounded and fragmented parts within ourselves. As we learn what we need to do and adjust our lives accordingly, our mirrors will change. People will come and go from our lives, as we will always attract new mirror images for us to look at as we progress.

Serving as Mirrors for Others

We also serve as mirrors for others without consciously realizing it. We are both students and teachers in this life. Knowing this, makes us wonder what types of lessons we are offering others by our actions each day.

Dr. Howard Peiper, N.D. nominated for a Pulitzer Prize, has written several best sellingbooks on nutrition and natural health.

Dr. Howard Peiper

Dr. Howard Peiper

Dr. Howard  Peiper is a nationally recognized expert in the holistic counseling field. His healing, healthcare and natural professional credentials extend over a thirty year period and include those of naturopath, author, lecturer, magazine consultant, radio personality and host of a television show, Partners in Healing. Visit his website https://drhowardpeiper.wordpress.com

Howard, nominated for a Pulitzer Prize, has written numerous books on nutrition and natural health including 12 best sellers.

Create a Miracle with Hexagonal Water
New Hope for Serious Diseases
The A.D.D. & A.D.H. Diet
Zeolite Nature's Heavy Metal Detoxifier
Viral Immunity with Humic Acid
The Secrets of Staying Young
Nutritional Leverage For Great Golf
All Natural High Performance Diet
Natural Solutions For Sexual Enhancement
Disarmed
Super Nutrition for Dogs and Cats

Books can be ordered at:
Safe Goods Publishing.

Dr. Peiper is co-host of the award winning Television show, Partners in Healing. They feature guest in the alternative healing field including such names as Harvey Diamond, Dr. John Upledger, Dr. Bernard Jensen, Gary Null and Dr. Marshall Mandell.

 
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