Be Yourself!

family counselor child help Charles Schulz, the creator of the "Peanuts" comic strip reminds us to "Be yourself. Everyone else is taken!" This is good philosophy for us all and to model for our children.

He suggests that we ponder these questions:

1. Name the five wealthiest people in the world.

2. Name the last five Heisman trophy winners.

3. Name the last five Miss Americas.

4. Name ten people who have won the Nobel or Pulitzer Prize.

5. Name six Academy Award winners for best actor.

6. Name the last five years' worth of World Series Winners.

How did you do? The point is that none of us remember the headliners of yesterday even though they were the best in their fields. The applause dies, awards tarnish and achievements are forgotten.

Another list to think about:

1. List a few teachers who made a difference in your life. (Miss West and Sr. Caldwell)

2. Name several friends who have helped you through a difficult time (Liz, Karen)

3. Name five people who have taught you something worthwhile. (my list is too long to list!)

4. Think of a few people who have made you feel appreciated and special. (Shirley, Chuck)

5. Think of five people you enjoy spending time with. (Mother, Liz, Kellie, Elaine, Jane)

That list was easy for me. I totally failed the first list. I imagine you did too. The lesson here is that people who make a difference in our lives are not necessarily famous, wealthy or award-winners. They simply are the ones who care the most about us. Children often are attracted to popularity' adults sometimes to fame or money. Perhaps you will want to reflect on this as well as discuss this with your children.

Copyright 2018, Sharon Scott. No reproduction without written permission from author.

P.S. Please see my other column, The Counselor's Corner , about helping your child through loss and grief.

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