Everything that happens to us happens in purpose. And sometimes, one
thing leads to another. Instead of locking yourself up in your cage of
fears and crying over past heartaches, embarrassment and failures,
treat them as your teachers and they will become your tools in both
self improvement and success.

I remember watching Patch Adams – its my favorite movie,
actually. Its one great film that will help you improve yourself.
Hunter “patch” Adams is a medical student who
failed to make it through the board exams. After months of suffering in
melancholy, depression and suicidal attempts – he decided to
seek for medical attention and voluntarily admitted himself in a
psychiatric ward.  His months of stay in the hospital led him
to meeting different kinds of people. Sick people in that matter. He
met a catatonic, a mentally retarded, a schizophrenic and so on. Patch
found ways of treating his own ailment and finally realized he has to
get back on track. He woke up one morning realizing that after all the
failure and pains he has gone through, he still want to become the a
doctor. He carries with himself a positive attitude that brought him
self improvement and success. He didn’t only improved
himself, but also the life of the people around him and the quality of
life. Did he succeed? Needless to say, he became the best damn doctor
his country has ever known.

So, when does self improvement become synonymous with success? Where do
we start? Take these tips, friends…

*Stop thinking and feeling as if you’re a failure, because
you’re not. How can others accept you if YOU can’t
accept YOU?

*When you see hunks and models on TV, think more on self improvement,
not self pitying. Self acceptance is not just about having nice slender
legs, or great abs. Concentrate on inner beauty.

*When people feel so down and low about themselves, help them move up.
Don’t go down with them. They’ll pull you down
further and both of you will end up feeling inferior.

*The world is a large room for lessons, not mistakes. Don’t
feel stupid and doomed forever just because you failed on a science
quiz. There’s always a next time. Make rooms for self

*Take things one at a time. You don’t  expect black
sheep’s to be goody-two-shoes in just a snap of a finger.
Self improvement is a one day at a time process.

*Self improvement results to inner stability, personality development
and dig this …. SUCCESS. It comes from self confidence, self
appreciation and self esteem.

* Set meaningful and achievable goals. Self improvement
doesn’t turn you to be the exact replica of Cameron Diaz or
Ralph Fiennes. It hopes and aims to result to an improved and better

*Little things mean BIG to other people. Sometimes, we don’t
realize that the little things that we do like a pat on the back,
saying “hi” or “hello”,
greeting someone “good day” or telling Mr. Smith
something like “hey, I love your tie!” are simple
things that mean so much to other people. When we’re being
appreciative about beautiful things around us and other people, we also
become beautiful to them.

*When you’re willing to accept change and go through the
process of self improvement, it doesn’t mean that everyone
else is. The world is a place where people of different values and
attitude hang out. Sometimes, even if you think you and your best
friend always like to do the same thing together at the same time, she
would most likely decline an invitation for self improvement.

We should always remember that there’s no such thing as
‘over night success’. Its always a wonderful
feeling to hold on to the things that you already have now, realizing
that those are just one of the things you once wished for. A very nice
quote says that “When the student is ready, the teacher will
appear.”  We are all here to learn our lessons. Our
parents, school teachers, friends, colleagues, officemates,
neighbors… they are our teachers. When we open our doors for
self improvement, we increase our chances to head to the road of

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Diane Higgins

"Be your authentic self it's the path to success."-Psychologist Diane Higgins has authored numerous papers and has lectured extensively helping people find their authentic self, learn to be being purposeful and develop positive thinking. Diane is the author and/or editor of our Self Help Section. HigginsSelf HelpSelf HelpParenting Advice| Family Fun Activities for Kids