Smile Notes: What Happy People Know by Sharon Scott, LPC LMFT
What Happy People Know
By Sharon Scott, LPC, LMFT
“You only live once, but if you work it right, once is enough.”– Joe E. Lewis
“Appreciation is the first and most fundamental happiness tool,” claims Dan Baker, PhD., in his wonderful book What Happy People Know .
He goes on to say that appreciation is the purest, strongest form of love. It is the kind of love that asks for nothing yet gives everything. He also states that appreciation is the antidote to fear. What do we fear? Our children not growing up healthy and successful, paying the bills, keeping our job, are just a few of the worries we might have.
Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” – Melody Beattie
We cannot at the exact same time be in a state of appreciation and a negative state such as fear or sadness. As a marriage and family therapist, I frequently remind my clients to live in the moment and avoid focusing on past hurts or future worries. Not only is it a waste of energy, but it’s not brain healthy.
In Sarah Ban Breathnach’s manual, The Simple Abundance Companion, she challenges readers to make a Master List of Blessings. In other words to reflect on our life and write down 100 things that we appreciate about our life (from birth to now). Here are a few things on my list:
Sharon’s Master List of Blessings
Two wonderful parents who were married for 57 1/2 years until Daddy’s death
Four delightful, encouraging grandparents
The look of absolute devotion in the eyes of my tri-color Cocker Spaniel, Scooter
My grandmother made me a fresh coconut cake every birthday (middle layer pink)
Cardinals in evergreen trees in the middle of winter
Homemade hot chocolate on a cold, frosty morning
Trees giving us their glorious colors in the fall
Pansies and irises smiling at me
I encourage you to begin your list and enjoy the state of gratitude. It’s a blessing that we can choose to be in whenever we want!
Copyright 2016. Sharon Scott. No reproduction without written permission from author.
The guide for parents/educators on how to peer-proof children and teens is Peer Pressure Reversal: An Adult Guide to Developing a Responsible Child, 2nd Ed.
Her popular book for teens, How to Say No and Keep Your Friends, 2nd Ed., empowers kids to stand out,not just fit in!
A follow-up book for teens, When to Say Yes! And Make More Friends, shows adolescents how to select and meet quality friends and, in general, feel good for doing and being good.
Sharon also has a charming series of five books for elementary-age children each teaching an important living skill and "co-authored" with her savvy cocker spaniel Nicholas who makes the learning fun.Their book on managing elementary-age peer pressure is titled Too Smart for Trouble.
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