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It’s Tough Being a Woman

by Kellie Strausser

women friendsI swear; being a woman is hard work. There are so many expectations. I know there are for men as well, and I don’t mean to sound insensitive toward the opposite sex, but I think women have it much, much harder (this of course is just my opinion). From birth, you have all of these expectations placed upon you.

Not only are you supposed to be pretty, but you are also expected to be polite, petite and perfect. We should just call them the four P’s. Sounds like the name of a band, such as the temptations, or the Four Tops.

No wonder so many issues arise as we get to be my age. If we are not petite, pretty, polite and, or perfect, we obviously are not doing our job as a woman. I may have a bit of a chip on my shoulder. I’m not petite. Strike one. I’m attractive, but wouldn’t be walking down a runway anytime soon. Not necessarily strike two.

I can be polite, but many times I tend to speak my mind. Most times, I can be fairly weird. Strike two. Perfect, well that is just impossible (although aren’t most people striving for that impossibility?) Strike three, because it will never happen.

I guess my little tangent started with thinking about everything I have to do, need to do, what other people are expecting me to do, and how much time I actually have to do it in. Granted, you can place a lot of this stress upon yourself, but it is what people expect of you. In my case, I am the girlfriend who cooks and cleans (I’ve been on strike with some of this lately though and it feels pretty darn good), but what everyone really thinks I should be is a wife and a mother, I’m the daughter who is good and helpful, the sister who baby-sits and buys gifts for her nieces and nephew, the employee and many more roles.

These are not bad things, but when you have your own life to live and your own self to take care of and everything seems to bombard you at one time, it can be draining, both mentally and physically.

I have a friend at the moment who has so many expectations placed on her at this point in time, that she said to me today, “I am at the end. I can’t take one more thing.” Her mother needs to be placed into a home, her job is demanding, she owns her own business, her friend tried to commit suicide over the weekend, and ten other things that I won’t list.

Bad things happen to people in general. Women though, tend to take on the emotions of other people. Women feel other’s pain much more intensely (this is in general, I realize not all women are like this and many men are like this) and women empathize and feel the need to help much more strongly. It’s the care-taking attitude, and it can make your life miserable at times.

Yes miserable. I guess women were made this way, because we are also much more able to talk about our feelings and get the stress out through our emotions. It just always seems like a lot of responsibility.

Generally speaking of course, wouldn’t it be easier to be the man. Things seem much more simple in the way they think. I am not saying men are simple (although sometimes I do feel that way, ha ha). I’m saying, that they don’t usually complicate matters with too much emotion, or feelings of empathy that won’t let you function without feeling guilty about everything you do or don’t do for people.

Things seem to be cut and dry. Period. Why can’t that be me? How wonderful it would be to feel that way, or to not feel as much. Or would it? It’s ok to say no. Of course, the trick is not feeling guilty afterward.

I have generalized men and women a lot today, and if anyone disagrees with me, or has a male point of view, I’d love to know. Of course I want to know, I want to know what you think, I want to know everything and I care about your feelings. because I have to know, I need to know, I’m a woman.


Kellie Strausser

Chef Kellie Strausser is a thirty-four year young self and restaurant taught Chef who dabbles in catering small functions as a hobby. Her love of creating carries over into several areas of her life, including freelance writing, art and her passion for cooking and entertaining for friends and family in Lancaster, PA. StrausserLife+StyleHealthLife Tips It's Tough Being a Woman by Kellie Strausser I swear; being a woman is hard work. There are so many expectations. I know there are for men as well, and I don't mean to sound insensitive toward the opposite sex, but I think women have it much, much harder (this...Parenting Advice| Family Fun Activities for Kids