Why so Many Angry Young Men – An Opinion
By Rick Johnson – Dad Sense – Ever notice we have a lot of angry young men running around today?
One of the reasons is that our boys today have a certain amount of repressed anger. It results in more bullying in school, but also in a more escalated level of violence.
This is caused by not allowing young males to solve their social issues as they have for thousands of years’ on their own. In the past when two young males disagreed about something, they went on the playground and tussled around until one or the other acceded, generally they both just got too tired to continue and quit.
They then shook hands and forgot about it. In fact, many boys I fought with we went on to be good friends. Today, however, with adult (feminine) interference, boys are not allowed to solve their own problems. They are taught that any kind of aggression or (gasp) violence is bad.
So they are forced to repress those feelings which eventually cause them to fester into frustration, anger, resentment, and bitterness–far more powerful feelings than they were originally faced with. Eventually, those powerful repressed emotions spill over and explode into greater levels of violence evidenced by the shootings and stabbings we see of young men across the country.
I’m not promoting that we should teach young males that violence is the way to solve problems. But in the “old days” when a gym teacher had two boys who had problems with each other he put boxing gloves on them both and told them to settle their differences. Afterward they were made to shake hands and forget about it.
Even in the most adversarial unsupervised playground scuffle seldom was anyone injured beyond a bloody nose. Males always respect their opponent after doing battle with one another and frequently become good friends because of the respect they earn for one another. We did not see the problems then that we face today with high levels of violence and killing of our young men.
Our more feminized world of total tolerance does not allow a young man to seek justice which causes him to be resentful and angry. Males are taught it is bad to fight or even be aggressive over any insult no matter how egregious the offense.
Again, I’m not promoting violence, bullying, or unchecked aggression, but this kind of feminization of young males not only results in a more intensified level of aggression but also produces passive men who often internalize this anger and frustration which then manifests itself in destructive passive-aggressive behavior.
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